Male Personal Trainer and Your GF (how to, men, cheated, jealous)
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One of my friends got very touchy-feely with her personal trainer, so that'd make me weary, but overall I see no issue with it. At both gyms I've gone to, there's a ton of cross-gender trainer/trainees without issue (I guess from what I can tell!).
Plus, this particular friend was having marital issues and has done things with guys beyond her personal trainer, so just them being in contact was not what kickstarted things.
Best friends boyfriend (who I am also very close to) is upset about it. I talk to my best friend almost daily and she's never spoke about her trainer besides "I'm heading to the gym". She has never really mentioned anything to me about him, besides what she does in her workouts at the gym.
He sounds like he is insecure - a very unattractive trait in a partner.
I'd warn him about not creating self-fulfilling prophecies if I were you.
If he ever comes home and she's freshly showered and suddenly tries to have sex in a desperate way she's not exhibited before, he needs to pack his stuff, it's guilt-sex and cover-up sex.
I do not see the issue. My GFs both do capoeira and jujitsu and I have never seen any cause to be jealous or for concern. Similarly I teach students in the local college a few things, both physical and mental (like vipassana meditation) and my GFs have never taken issue with any of it.
There are _some_ people in the world I know however who think that a person being in a relationship means (s)he should automatically cut off any and all unchaperoned (by them) contact with any member of the opposite sex. All I can say is that I have no small amount of pity and sympathy for people in such a relationship.
If he ever comes home and she's freshly showered and suddenly tries to have sex in a desperate way she's not exhibited before, he needs to pack his stuff, it's guilt-sex and cover-up sex.
Totally different question, tho.
I hope that's sarcasm. I've showered at the gym because I don't want to get in my car all sweaty and reeking of perspiration and gone home to have sex with my husband because I enjoy it. I assure you it wasn't any cover-up sex.
I hope that's sarcasm. I've showered at the gym because I don't want to get in my car all sweaty and reeking of perspiration and gone home to have sex with my husband because I enjoy it. I assure you it wasn't any cover-up sex.
The idea that a boyfriend would look askance at me because I have a male personal trainer and shower after I work out. Now if I was not working out and chose instead, day after day, to lie on the couch wearing a fleece gunnysack (sweats) with greasy hair and gaining 5 pounds every week, he'd have something to say about THAT, go out and have himself an affair and try to defend it because I let myself go.
Jealousy, suspicion and raging insecurity DO NOT equal love. I am a grown woman. I refuse to be chaperoned like a hormonally challenged teenager.
Just my two cents worth. Jealousy, no, but in reality, I believe that a male going to a female trainer is odd, same as a female going to a male trainer.
Think logically, a male trainer has no way of knowing what goes on in a woman's body, so he's going to give her things to do, that he can, expecting her to do it. And if he's had to learn it from a woman, then his knowledge is still based on someone else's input. vice versa for women.
I personally see no real physical benefit in going to see a female trainer for my body. Probably on one part of my anatomy would become enhanced.
Just my two cents worth. Jealousy, no, but in reality, I believe that a male going to a female trainer is odd, same as a female going to a male trainer.
Think logically, a male trainer has no way of knowing what goes on in a woman's body, so he's going to give her things to do, that he can, expecting her to do it. And if he's had to learn it from a woman, then his knowledge is still based on someone else's input. vice versa for women.
I personally see no real physical benefit in going to see a female trainer for my body. Probably on one part of my anatomy would become enhanced.
But these are personal fitness trainers, not physicians. An effective trainer should be able to work with both men and women.
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