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It's different with guys than girls. A girl in her late 30s or 40s has to take what she can get. Guys have a longer shelf life.
Are you kidding? A former colleague of mind is 36/37. She's from Argentina. She's looking at an offer she received in Basel, Switzerland and an offer she received at my Co here in Cambridge. She's a PhD computational chemist and her little hot tamale boyfriend is just finishing up his PhD. You really think she has to settle? No way. She's coupling up with one of her own as we all do.
[quote=Maverick2012;26219307]It's different with guys than girls. A girl in her late 30s or 40s has to take what she can get. Guys have a longer shelf life.
LMAO!! No, sweetheart, we don't have to 'take what we can get'!! At any age! We may possess seasoned shells however we are all human on the inside!! BTW I'm 49 and my boyfriend/fiance is a sexy 33 year old!! Yeah, that's what we can get!! Guess my shelf life was forever!!
It's different with guys than girls. A girl in her late 30s or 40s has to take what she can get. Guys have a longer shelf life.
LMAO!! No, sweetheart, we don't have to 'take what we can get'!! At any age! We may possess seasoned shells however we are all human on the inside!! BTW I'm 49 and my boyfriend/fiance is a sexy 33 year old!! Yeah, that's what we can get!! Guess my shelf life was forever!!
You haven't been on this forum very long
According to many of the men here, women's shelf life is set at 30 years old and after that they're over the hill and not worth dating.
You really need to stop and think about what you wrote. You say you are ugly, you have a low paying job and bad credit, and you have an attitude about women, yet you are casting aside these women that do like you because you want a 9 or a 10. Life often doesn't work that way. I don't think people should have to settle, but you also have to be realistic here. You have to think about what you are bringing to the table and what is realistic to expect with that. I would guess that somewhere in that group of women that you cast aside, might have been someone that would have made you very happy. Like many have already said, maybe use this time to work on yourself. Try to work on your career and do what you need to do to maybe earn more money and to fix your credit. You say you are ugly and I am not sure in what ways, but work on those ways. Whether it is losing weight, or getting a new hairstyle, nicer clothes, or gaining more self confidence and a better attitude about women and dating.
People have always told me to just "take what you can get, because it won't get any better" I'm seriously considering doing just that. Should I just settle for the women who do like me?
Whatever you think your number is on the scale of desirability, you need to be willing to settle for someone a few notches below you since that's probably your accurate number anyway.
(I just made that whole thing up so you don't have to take my advice or anything. lol)
You have to take what you can get when you don't have much too offer. It's unrealistic to expect to date someone out of your league. Everyone has a position and a rank. if you're a 3/4 out of 10, you can't expect to get a woman who's a 7 or 8. Highest status men go with the most beautiful women, and ordinary people go with other ordinary people. Below average go with below average. We all have to find our level. Some of those so called ugly and overweight girls have nice personalities, and when our looks fade that's what's left. It is actually true when they say it's what's inside that counts.
Sounds like the OP suffers from low confidence, which may be hurting his chances. If he has found a lot of women are attracted to him, that means he must have many redeaming qualities, even if he does not see them.
Also, I find it odd that the OP considers it "taking what he can get." Having women who like you, and are attracted to you is such a considerable plus!
The OP is making too much of superficial things. Both in evaluating himself as well as others. If women are attracted to the OP as he indicates, he must not be ugly or unattractive. Equally, if the OP is not attracted to any of these women who like him, I wonder if the OP is putting the need for what culture deems as beauty up on a pedestal.
One thing I have learned over the years about beauty and attraction to women is that when you are attracted to their hearts, you see them as being incredibly attractive whether or not they have a playboy body. (Yes, that doesn't mean you will find yourself physically attractive to all body types or features either). However, some guys seem to assume there is no way they would be attracted to the average, normal woman on first glance because she is not Jenna Jamison or something.... They never give themselves a chance to find real women attractive.
The OP is making too much of superficial things. Both in evaluating himself as well as others. If women are attracted to the OP as he indicates, he must not be ugly or unattractive. Equally, if the OP is not attracted to any of these women who like him, I wonder if the OP is putting the need for what culture deems as beauty up on a pedestal.
It's probably more that the OP is down on himself, and in his mind having a hot girlfriend will show the world that he's a worthwhile person. If he wants someone who actually likes him who's fun and sexy and pretty (but not gorgeous,) he may need to be more realistic (which is not the same as settling.)
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