Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
yes. by men at least 2 or 3 times at the most.... and also my first ever college roommate: I went to college at like 19 and moved into the dorms. My white female roommate promptly moved out 2 days later. She told someone (and that person told me) she said she "never lived with a black person before." As if that explains it all.
I remember getting my first college roommate in the dorms, meeting her and being worried we wouldn't get along or have anything in common. She was white with a bunch of piercings! (chin, eyebrow, tongue, nose, nipples) She would come back every other weekend with a new piercing or tattoo. Turns out she was best roommate. She mostly listened to punk. We even had an agreement about the stereo, we found a station that was a weird mix of alternative, 80s and R&B. We also had to play CDs the other one liked. We played a lot of Prince! My parents loved her too.
I think the important lesson I learned was not to be too quick to judge based on initial appearance.
That sux I think living on campus is way overrated anyway. You save more money by living at home.
Living on campus MADE my college experience for sure. I made so many lifelong friends from my time in the dorms. I wouldn't have had such a good experience without the dorm experience.
Living on campus MADE my college experience for sure. I made so many lifelong friends from my time in the dorms. I wouldn't have had such a good experience without the dorm experience.
i lived on campus for one year and then saved up to live on my own. I just prefer having my own space(the dorms are too small on campus), and i don't like rooming with other people. Some roommates can be annoying. When I had a group of friends, it was fun in the beginning. So I didn't feel like I was missing out on anything by not living on campus.
yes. by men at least 2 or 3 times at the most.... and also my first ever college roommate: I went to college at like 19 and moved into the dorms. My white female roommate promptly moved out 2 days later. She told someone (and that person told me) she said she "never lived with a black person before." As if that explains it all.
Wow. Thought I was the only one that experienced this, except it was a White Brazilian roomate. When her parents found out that her roomate (me) was Black, they got her off campus housing. I came back from class one day, and she and her things were gone. Just like that. Then when I saw her on campus, she acted like she didn't know me. Wouldn't even make eye contact. Also, the Asian parents use to request that their kids not be roomed with Black students as well. This was in the S.F. Bay Area. I could go on for days with stories like that, but I won't.
I don't mean to make this a divisive or combative thread. But I live in a large, diverse city and was recently told by a woman, "You are super sweet but I only date Hispanic men." She is Hispanic herself.
Please note that I am not trying to single out Hispanics as I know full well there are plenty of white (non-hispanics) that will not date anyone except another white person. This was more prevalent in past decades but it still persists....
And I get that everyone has their tastes and preferences.
For the record, I am a white (non-hispanic) guy and I have dated all kinds of ladies (white, black, asian, latina, etc). I might have preferences (dark brunettes of any race) but I NEVER rule out a person based on their race or ethnicity (or hair color for that matter).
Are people with strict racial/ethnic or even religious based rules for dating close minded and not worth it anyway?
You just contradicted your statement in the first part of your post.
Clearly, you are looking for trouble. I'm sure you'll find it.
Reading the comments here, does this mean as a mulatto (Cuban- well black with a hint of spanish/British) I'm royally screwed? Because it explains so much about many past rejections.
Really don't like the idea that I have to be restricted to one race because society says so.
I'm not offended at all. I was confused by you assuming that I thought it was horrible. You want to just say stuff? I doubt it. I believe there was a point to me behind it so I was confused.
I was once rejected by a Tamil girl for being too white. I'm a half Indian half white guy. I think it might have had more to do with us being too different culturally, however, then just straight up race. If I were culturally really Indian it might have worked better, and I think that's common with alot of these stories because in America, race often equates with a culture and the rejection might have more to do with the culture you belong to then your physical appearance. I feel like that might have been the reason, for example, why the Hispanic girl in the above story said she only dated Hispanic guys.
At what point do we become Americans? Italians, Irish, Chinese, and many more immigrated here and didn't seem to have problems with marrying the people already living here. I don't get it, honestly. Its going to be hard to assimilate if everyone in the family is marrying people from the exact same part of the world pre-immigration. If one is going to insist, for instance, on only dating other Tamil, then why the eff did they come to America to begin with? Why not stay in India or Malaysia? If one is only going to date hispanics, then why not do everyone a favor and move south of the border or to Spain! I can understand Muslims or conservative Christians or Buddhists and whatnot not wanting to date outside their faith, but it comes across as very very racist and very un-American to insist that because someone is white or black or assimilated American or bi-racial that they are not dateworthy because they might not like vegimite or might not love your mother's cooking that comes form Pakistan. And lets face it here: its those of us who come from lineages that have been here longer who are having this problem with more recent immigrants.
What even gets me more is I hear from Mexicans, and Indians, and Pakistanis, and Malaysians, and Chinese and everyone else about how their parents aren't "American" enough, how Mom and Dad are backward, and they wish their families were more "Americanized" but in the same breath they admit they won't date anyone who doesn't have that same background. I met a guy here once who spent the first 20 or so minutes I met him ranting about how backward his family was, how stubborn they were, that they were still doing arranged marriages and only with people from the exact same part of India his parents came to America from, and then, the next time I met him..."whoops, sorry, I only date Indian women." And to be honest, it isn't just the immigrants of color who do this either, I've heard of and ran into whole pockets of white South Africans, Australians, and even British people who won't date people who are not also expats/immigrants from their respective countries.
In the end, you never know if someone is going to have a hard time with your cultural background until you give them a chance. I'm starting to get to a point where if a guy has an obviously non-American accent, or is obviously the child of immigrants I give him the cold shoulder no matter how hot he is. I'm obviously not the only one doing that, either, because I've heard the whining about that too, the "*sniffle sniffle* Americans who've been here forever won't give me a chance" line.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
As if that explains it all.
I think living on campus is way overrated anyway. You save more money by living at home.
You just contradicted your statement in the first part of your post. 