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I would add that you probably need to heal from the affects of a broken relationship. Usually that means you need to sort through your feelings (read: while you are single), whatever they happen to be. Re-entering into dating before you have healed (it sounds like you are not even close) will be difficult. Problem is, sometimes those new relationships are the ONLY thing that takes our mind off of the break up (albeit temporary). That, and being alone after being in a LTR is a bit of an adjustment.
Life can be scary, and nobody gets through it without at least some pain. Oh well.
The key is to control your feelings rather than letting them control you.
I talked about this last night with her & this might sound a bit lame but the fact that my B.S meter has gone off with her scares me. Which in turn makes her hard to read. Please don't misunderstand me I like the fact that I can't find a flaw with her... just not sure how to handle it... if that makes any sense.
When I told her this she started laughing I was frusted by this point. Once she finally stopped laughing she told me that I'm just going to have to get used to someone who isn't into playing games, and wants the same thing's that I want... That confused me even more.
I talked about this last night with her & this might sound a bit lame but the fact that my B.S meter has gone off with her scares me. Which in turn makes her hard to read. Please don't misunderstand me I like the fact that I can't find a flaw with her... just not sure how to handle it... if that makes any sense.
When I told her this she started laughing I was frusted by this point. Once she finally stopped laughing she told me that I'm just going to have to get used to someone who isn't into playing games, and wants the same thing's that I want... That confused me even more.
Well, she sounds emotionally healthy to me - good for her.
But how sad for you when a woman NOT playing games "confuses" you
Dude, you have some work to do on yourself.
Right now you are lucky she is hanging tough with you and not running for the hills.
I highly recommend a few sessions with a therapist, since you seem unable to move past your fears and insecurities on your own.
I talked about this last night with her & this might sound a bit lame but the fact that my B.S meter has gone off with her scares me. Which in turn makes her hard to read. Please don't misunderstand me I like the fact that I can't find a flaw with her... just not sure how to handle it... if that makes any sense.
When I told her this she started laughing I was frusted by this point. Once she finally stopped laughing she told me that I'm just going to have to get used to someone who isn't into playing games, and wants the same thing's that I want... That confused me even more.
You know, I second what calipoppy said.
If this woman is making your B.S meter go off, your body is telling you something.
She might be saying the right words, but there's something about her that's just not sitting right with your spirit.
This is what I'd do if I were you. Pay close attention to her actions, not what she says, and give it time. Usually with time, people's true colors show.
I know that in my life, EVERY TIME I refused to pay attention to my gut feelings and instead listened to people's words instead of their actions, I got burned.
Give it time, but don't discount your feelings.
Time will tell.
You know, I second what calipoppy said.
If this woman is making your B.S meter go off, your body is telling you something.
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I think you missed what I said. I said that its NOT going off & I'm not used to having someone so postive & forthcoming in my life. At least not when it comes to relationships.
I think you missed what I said. I said that its NOT going off & I'm not used to having someone so postive & forthcoming in my life. At least not when it comes to relationships.
Well, she sounds emotionally healthy to me - good for her.
But how sad for you when a woman NOT playing games "confuses" you
Dude, you have some work to do on yourself.
Right now you are lucky she is hanging tough with you and not running for the hills.
I highly recommend a few sessions with a therapist, since you seem unable to move past your fears and insecurities on your own.
We sit down & talked about what were both looking for & to be honest she does want what I want. I told her that I'm scared I might try to push her away. She told me that she wouldn't let that happen & she would be a fool to let me get away..I honestly didn't know what to say. and I love to talk. She said is more then willing to take her time with this & that I was important to her. Out of the two serious relationship I've been in those two things have never been said to me before. I guess confuse was the wrong word to use. This is so different from anything I have experienced in the past. I don't want her to go running for the hills I guess I just need to learn that she isn't like the last two.
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I said that its NOT going off & I'm not used to having someone so postive & forthcoming in my life. At least not when it comes to relationships.
She said is more then willing to take her time with this & that I was important to her. Out of the two serious relationship I've been in those two things have never been said to me before. I guess confuse was the wrong word to use. This is so different from anything I have experienced in the past. I don't want her to go running for the hills I guess I just need to learn that she isn't like the last two.
