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Whenever I hear a girl talking about soulmates or the "one," I have this reaction . I can't believe people in this day and age fall for that fairy tale crap. To me, thats a sign of naivety and red flag because you have to wonder what that person is going to do when they realize that marriage is not a fairy tale. Can they handle the daily routine when it comes to a long term relationship.
Soulmates is a BS concept. It's 100% about luck and opportunity.
I agree that it is a red flag when someone believes if they meet the right person, all will be pefect in a fairy tale, everyone lives happily ever after ending. It does show nievity, but it is very prevalent.
That said, I do not think a "soulmate" has to fit the image of a fairy tale ending. I think some people refer to their "soul mate" as someone who they have amazing chemistry with (for whatever reasons or details). A person can have a soulmate, recognize that soulmate, and know that it takes a lot of work and effort, along with the chemistry, to make a relationship work and last. Especially through difficult times.
The issue may not be the label as much as how some people define it.
I think my husband is my soul mate. It doesn't mean I believe our marriage is supposed to be a fairy tale. I'm not sure why one term would make you think you know someone's whole outlook on love and life.
Well, I'm off to the stables to have my daily horse ride. This evening I'll be donning my favorite evening gown because we are having a ball. Ahh... the life of a princess is never dull!
In general, yes I think they're naive and those aren't the types of girls for me...so I avoid them. I'm into more practical types.
This is also because I feel like if they're naive about this, then they're naive about many other things in life too. They're probably not that street smart, may be the type that's easily conned into getting into debt (useless, expensive grad degree program for example or wanting the perfect fairy-tale white picket fence house even though it's totally impractical), and is probably someone who's a sucker for marketing campaigns.
Just because one believes in soulmates they must have unrealistic views of the world around them, they are naive, they are easily conned, in debt, not street smart and gullible.
I feel that it's an optimistic view on relationships, not that they are naive.
"Talk about constantly, make reference to it with every new boy/girlfriend they get, bring it up as reality just because they found out both parties enjoy circus peanuts, then get miffed because of a missed phone call and decide that person wasn't their soulmate"...? -- Abso-fraggin'-lutely.
Whenever I hear a girl talking about soulmates or the "one," I have this reaction . I can't believe people in this day and age fall for that fairy tale crap. To me, thats a sign of naivety and red flag because you have to wonder what that person is going to do when they realize that marriage is not a fairy tale. Can they handle the daily routine when it comes to a long term relationship.
Soulmates is a BS concept. It's 100% about luck and opportunity.
What a pile of rubbish. I mean, just because it hasn't happened to you doesn't mean it doesn't happen to others. Heck, I've never been to Indonesia, but I know it's there.
Actually, if you prick up your ears and pay careful attention to the people who cross your path in life, you'll find the person whose personality, chemistry, whatever align almost ideally with what you seek--even if you don't know exactly what you're looking for.
I met my wife at a party. It was an instantaneous connection. Had she not been there with a date, we would have left the party right then and there together to talk. Mind you, we had to wait a week before we saw one another again, but we were engaged within three months of first meeting. And married within 10 months. Twenty-two years later, we still complete each others' sentences and have had precisely one argument (Over a vacuum cleaner attachment, of all things).
So maybe if you'd stop with the face palming and actually pay attention to life, maybe you'd start recognizing those opportunities when they come along. Who knows? You might have missed out on one already.
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. I can't believe people in this day and age fall for that fairy tale crap. To me, thats a sign of naivety and red flag because you have to wonder what that person is going to do when they realize that marriage is not a fairy tale. Can they handle the daily routine when it comes to a long term relationship. 
