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About true, 'unconditional', genuine love...love for the 'person', and not really because of other reasons...I mean I think we all 'love' for a perfectly tangible reason, even if we don't admit it...looks might not be the whole reason but it can sure add a lot to it. The idea of unconditional love is kind of stupid, when you think of it, most people don't even have it for their children (how many would still love their children if they ended up being Adolf Hitler?).
Has anyone grown cynical about the whole idea? Basically realised what they see as obvious, that love isn't really some glorified spiritual bond but serves a practical purpose. Every romantic impulse is driven by evolutionary biology. If so what event/events made you feel this way? Or have you always felt this way?
I think true love is possible but not something everyone gets to experience. I think most people have unrealistic expectations about love (I'm guilty of this myself) where they expect to meet someone and fall madly in love at first sight and be crazy about that person for the rest of their lives.
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Originally Posted by strawberrykiki
I think true love is possible but not something everyone gets to experience. I think most people have unrealistic expectations about love (I'm guilty of this myself) where they expect to meet someone and fall madly in love at first sight and be crazy about that person for the rest of their lives.
Methinks many 'love at first sight' stories contain a dash of hindsight and projecting feelings onto memories.
I don't really believe in "unconditional love" as it seems to involve a bit of "checking your brain at the door." And I'm not down with that. Maybe if I had a kid. But it wouldn't be the blind love many associate with that term.
As for "true love," I think it has been sapped of much of its meaning but that it exists. True love is really just an enduring emotion where you consistently put the other person's welfare above your own without resentment or excessive expectation. All this crap about finding "The One" and whatnot just warps that concept in my opinion. True love is something that you can find with any one of a large number of people, not just some magical individual who was custom-designed for you by the heavens. People use the idea of "The One" to justify some of their worst decisions and most self-destructive relationships.
Yeah, I've never really believed in any of that romantic love crap either. It's just another fairytale, like the guy in the sky who watches everything we do.
Wasn't there an experiment years ago that showed the way people's brains act when they think they're in love is the same as when someone takes crack cocaine for the first time. I'm sure I read that somewhere. it makes sense anyway. "love" is just a drug that's great at first but doesn't really end well
I think it's out there but to find it we have dig a little harder then we would normally. I don't think you can meet someone & say I've found my one true love. I believe that over time you start to understand said person the more it comes true. But I also think it takes years to discover that this person is your true love.
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