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Here's the thing about this whole 'looks vs. personality' issue - yes, it IS all about looks and anyone who denies it is a liar. How do I know this? Y'know... some things are just so elemental, so obvious, that they are completely missed by much more than a country mile. Here it is, class: what is the VERY FIRST THING about a person you take note of? LOOKS! That's right, kiddos, LOOKS! You do not and cannot tell a single damn thing about his personality, character, values... you know, those things that REALLY MATTER... simply by his looks. You cannot tell anything about any of the above based on how much hair he has on his head, what his facial bone structure is like, his height, weight, muscularity (or lack of), etc.
Now... I've said this countless times and the usual suspects will come on board and deny deny deny as always. But, as I've always said... EXPERIENCE counts much more than any anecdotal or 'feel-good' garbage that gets posted here by the aforementioned usual suspects. And as a hideous-looking person I have PLENTY of EXPERIENCE that confirms this multiple times. This is the reality.
Yes, OP, your premise is correct. DO NOT allow anyone to even attempt to convince you otherwise. It IS about looks.
IT IS NOT ABOUT LOOKS, dude. Not for men anyway. Yes, it will get a guy more opportunities and initial attraction from many women, but that doesnt take you very far, if guy has no personality or character to back that up. Ask women in your life, how many would date a guy who glances at himself in every mirror or store diplay windows as they walk by or a guy who takes longer than them to get ready when they go out. Looks are not very important at all, when it comes to guys. The only reason you say this, is that you are seeking an external source to blame your misofrutnes on, and that pretty chicken ****. Men dont do this.
It's called REALITY. Sorry, but that's the way the ball rolls. And nothing can be done to change it... it's how it's always been ever since Adam & Eve.
And this is exactly why the so-called 'beautiful woman' has zero appeal to me. None. Many 'average' women do not have such a crummy attitude... I'll take one of them, thank you very much.
Why do you want an "average" woman when you say that you're "hideous looking?" If you don't particularly want a "below average" or "hideous looking" woman yourself, why bother complaining that women only like attractive men or am I missing something here?
OK, but what you don't realize. What women think is "good looking enough" may not be what you expect at all. For some women the thing that pushes a man over into "good looking status" is
1. haircut
2. glasses
3. eyebrows
4. smile
5. clothing choices
6. eye color
7. height
8. physique
9. chin
10. dimples
11. a whole ton of other random little details
For every woman that thinks Colin Farrel is the hottest actor ever there are another 3 that think he is really ugly. There is no such thing as a universally attractive man.
This is a good post. For me, in my dating days, being unshaven generally was a turnoff. Some men can carry it off, others just look sloppy when they skip shaving for a few days. So clean shaven was always a default for me, as far as considering someone good looking.
I was... until I got ****ed over once again. Amazing how things just repeat themselves... now I am right back at Square One.
I'm sorry. I really am. I'm guessing this was fairly recent - so I'm not going to tell you to change your attitude or anything. You can use me as a punching bag if it makes you feel better. Go ahead and feel angry. Feel mad, feel disappointed, feel helpless, feel whatever you want. I'm hoping that once you get that all out of your system - you'll be in a better place. But until then - call me a liar. It's okay.
IT IS NOT ABOUT LOOKS, dude. Not for men anyway. Yes, it will get a guy more opportunities and initial attraction from many women, but that doesnt take you very far, if guy has no personality or character to back that up. Ask women in your life, how many would date a guy who glances at himself in every mirror or store diplay windows as they walk by or a guy who takes longer than them to get ready when they go out. Looks are not very important at all, when it comes to guys. The only reason you say this, is that you are seeking an external source to blame your misofrutnes on, and that pretty chicken ****. Men dont do this.
That is my point, you can thank me now. Oh, and make the check payable to ***
Like I've said... if the guy does not have the looks he will not have those 'opportunities and initial attraction from women' - had to strike out the 'many'.
I've known a lot of ugly guys with girlfriends or more than a few notches on their belts. They aren't rich and they don't have particularly hot bods.
There's definitely more to attraction than looks.
Definitely. Anytime you're out people watching, like at a concert or a farmer's market, you see all kinds of people in all kinds of configurations. Tall, short, fat, skinny, old, young, rich, poor--lots of people get together, and they're not just the hot and rich ones.
I find that hard to believe about Danny DeVito, for example, even when he had dark hair. This is timely because, within the last week, he is back on the news because his long marriage is ending.
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