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3 years before we moved in together. We were both 15 when we met so we moved in together when we were 18 (for all those confused by the mathematics) and i'm in England.
In the past I lived with two guys and in both cases I moved in within a few months. One lasted 4 weeks later and the other was a weird situations where we lived together 4 months, I moved out, I moved back in 8 months later and we lived together another 6 months until we eventually broke up again for good.
I will not live with a man again until either marriage (my first choice)or we become engaged and have a wedding date. My personal experience I saw and with my friends is many men would rather date than be married and living together they don't care about marriage as much.
Didn't vote in poll because I don't know, can't imagine what I would do/when/with whom...
In the past: Things were different-in part, bc. I had a huge apartment (and now I have a tiny apt.).
Way back when (almost 20 yrs. ago), I met a guy and we got involved. He was moving out of where he lived-so he moved in with me (at my invitation) after 2 weeks.
We were a couple for 8+ years (got married after 4 yrs. together), longest rel. I've had-though it did end, eventually.
Now (or in future) I have no idea, bc. I don't have space for someone to move in w/me and I'm attached to where I live. Doubt I'd be willing to give up what I have (a sure thing) in hopes of somewhere else (an uncertain prospect).
I wouldn't live with someone unless I was married to them so if it's just an "SO" and not a spouse, then my answer would be never.
Once you live with someone, break-ups become messy. His stuff...your stuff...someone has to move, etc. I wouldn't want to deal with that BS. That, to me, is the beauty of dating. When you aren't into that person anymore or they screw up...you just wave your hand and say good-bye.
I would most likely cohabit because I'm skeptical of marriage and I don't like today's definition of it.
I agree with this. Maybe one day I will get married but it sure as hell ain't for a long time. This doesn't mean I'm not interested in LTR, I just would like to be in a serious relationship but not in the archaic structure of a traditional marriage.
I've never cohabited with a SO before but I've been invited to such situations. Thus far I've declined because I've been too close to my parents. But now that I'm more independent I would consider it if I meet someone really compatible.
After my ordeal (moved in together after 4 months of dating -- I'll never be the impulsive again!), I will be much more cautious in the future. I will definitely need more than a year or two to pass by in the relationship just so that we're both completely on the same page and are making serious plans to settle down together (that doesn't mean marriage is immediately around the corner, but that we're in it for the long haul). You can get a good sense of how someone acts in private when they stay over for short spurts before taking the plunge.
I'm surprised at how many people would move in with someone after less than six months. I would need to be in a relationship a lot longer than that solely to make sure it has some staying power. Less than six months is still the honeymoon phase.
Eh, life is short.
Most relationships don't last anyway.
That was my vote and I wasn't surprised at the result.
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