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I'd be concerned with whether or not you'd be responsible for any debts he has if he should die.
Wouldn't you want to know what those debts are? I sure as hell would.
You'll have to do some research, but I beleive if you live in a community property state then you would be the responsible party (as his wife) even if your name isn't on any of his debts. This would apply to any debts that have happend within the marriage. Make sure he isn't charge card happy or financing a ton of crap. I'd also look into what happens if he decides to refinance his property.
Excellent point, sixy. His debts would need to be tied to his estate so it could come out of the inheritance. I can't imagine marrying someone without knowing their social security number and pulling a credit report yearly.
Excellent point, sixy. His debts would need to be tied to his estate so it could come out of the inheritance. I can't imagine marrying someone without knowing their social security number and pulling a credit report yearly.
Yeah, really.
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We had an situation where he went into the hospital for some tests, nothing serious. And when they admitted him they asked him for next of kin and he said his sister. That did kind of bother me, he said he thought they meant actual relatives.
The actual relative thing is weird. That doesn't sound like a marriage to me. I don't know why some people get married if they cannot deal with very deep commitment that comprises marriage. They should just live together.
She mentioned she had no job. No chance a judge is letting a man divorce a jobless 50+ year old woman without having to pay her.
I think people have to be married for 10 years. It's the reason my step-mother is not divorcing my father (together 17 years). She doesn't want to pay alimony.
Thank you everyone. I am not a gold digger, there is no gold to dig. Just don't want to be kicked out of here in case he gets sick of me. He has a very good job, but I do understand his money is his money.
We had an situation where he went into the hospital for some tests, nothing serious. And when they admitted him they asked him for next of kin and he said his sister. That did kind of bother me, he said he thought they meant actual relatives.
Yeah, right.
Face it, this isn't much of a marriage. As someone already said you are more like a roommate.
As far as you being off work for a year I do have some advice for you. It is apparent that whatever field you were in is not in demand. I suggest you use the work experience you do have and branch out to something else. Get a lower paying job if necessary. Reinvent yourself and you may be surprised that you can go up the ladder once again. I did that and I'm in my mid-50s.
Sign up with all the temp/staffing agency's that are in your area. You need to start making your own money and fast.
I can understand wanting the majority of your nest egg to go to your children when you marry later in life - but I would also want to ensure my spouse was taken care of. The part about you not even being next of kin is downright odd. In all honesty, that would bother me quite a bit.
Before DH and I married we discussed what he wants his children to receive, and I told him what I want to go to my sister and mom.
I have no advice as what's done is done, and it doesn't sound like it's going to change. I'm sorry.
I think people have to be married for 10 years. It's the reason my step-mother is not divorcing my father (together 17 years). She doesn't want to pay alimony.
No. the 10 years means that you are eligible to give lifetime alimony which is why a lot of couples in California divorce after 9 years so that they don't pay 40 years of alimony for just 10 years of marriage.
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