Can you talk yourself out of a good relationship? (dating, how to, marriage)

[atgss]

Is there really a good relationship? Okay, low percentage.

Or is it really a good using each other out of convenience these days to meet an agenda? Okay, higher percentage.

Sure one can especially if there's a B & B D or they swallowed the Red Pill.

[Pikake]

Yes, it's called self-sabotaging.

[Frihed89]

Most of the time; it's easy.

[kat949]

Originally Posted by reed067

So I was talking this topic over with a friend of mine on here & I thought I'd pose this question to you all.
No matter how good said relationship is going, can you convince yourself to leave it for one reason or another?
Why do people do this? How destructive is this not just to themselves but others as well?

Perhaps good in terms of conventions? Maybe the person left because what they want in a partner is not the same thing is what they need?

Someone may want a relationship that's society's gold standard of typical, but when little idiosyncrasies come into play, and you see the same person every single day- either the relationship will help to a person be their most authentic and happiest self, or it makes them a more watered down version of who they are so they leave.

I personally think people reach their own levels of epiphanies depending on their stage in life, and realize whether or not they're living a lie or they're truly happy. If that's the case, I don't think a person is inclined to walk away from something that intrinsically brings them joy inside (in which no amount of money or extraneous things outside of the relationship can buy).

[virgode]

Originally Posted by dub dub II

Can I? It's like the thing I do best.
The question is how do I not do this?

Why do I do this? Beats me. It's not for me to know.

If its not for you to know why, then who?

[virgode]

Originally Posted by Raena77

It's called fear.

Originally Posted by Pikake

Yes, it's called self-sabotaging.

^^^Both of these.

Sometimes we're our own worst enemy.

The fear of happiness, vulnerability and the potential for loss. That it can't be sustained or on a deeper subconscious level you may believe you don't deserve the happiness found in good relationships.

[dub dub II]

Originally Posted by stepka

Why isn't it? I'd get help for that if I were you.

You're not...so I won't.

[dub dub II]

Originally Posted by virgode

If its not for you to know why, then who?

Maybe no one, maybe someone else...

[virgode]

Originally Posted by dub dub II

Maybe no one, maybe someone else...

[dub dub II]

Originally Posted by virgode

i guess it's like, it's better to have never loved and never lost than it is to have loved and lost it all.