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From everything I see of people I know and people I associate with, it seems like a lot of people do "cheat". Either via text, a flirtacious facebook comment, etc. It's a lot easier to "cheat" online and not feel as guilty about it because you aren't there face to face, and nothing physical took place. I don't know, is there redemption? Maybe when we are finally reconnected and living together this kind of thing won't happen and we won't have those urges anymore. Is there any hope for it at all?
One of the reasons I do want to keep her though is I feel like my friend was trying to break us up, so that he wouldn't feel so guilty messing with my girlfriend. He had multiple talks with me asking me to reconsider my relationship with her prior to me eventually finding out. I feel like if I let her go, then that will be exactly what he wanted, even though I'm pretty sure those two would never talk again.
From what my girlfriend has told me it seems pretty clear he had no intentions of pursuing anything serious with her, she was just an object or a toy to help get him off. One of the requests he made was a Christmas present from her. He requested a video of her masturbating be sent to him. She never did this though.
Maybe when we are finally reconnected and living together this kind of thing won't happen and we won't have those urges anymore. Is there any hope for it at all?
Not much.
Marriage doesn't magically make things better. It magnifies the problems. She is who she is, and so are you. You won't suddenly become faithful after you marry/move in together if you weren't before.
One of the reasons I do want to keep her though is I feel like my friend was trying to break us up, so that he wouldn't feel so guilty messing with my girlfriend. He had multiple talks with me asking me to reconsider my relationship with her prior to me eventually finding out. I feel like if I let her go, then that will be exactly what he wanted, even though I'm pretty sure those two would never talk again.
From what my girlfriend has told me it seems pretty clear he had no intentions of pursuing anything serious with her, she was just an object or a toy to help get him off. One of the requests he made was a Christmas present from her. He requested a video of her masturbating be sent to him. She never did this though.
She's got a couple of weeks to send that video.
Last edited by Chadd1014; 12-07-2012 at 05:08 PM..
One of the reasons I do want to keep her though is I feel like my friend was trying to break us up, so that he wouldn't feel so guilty messing with my girlfriend. He had multiple talks with me asking me to reconsider my relationship with her prior to me eventually finding out. I feel like if I let her go, then that will be exactly what he wanted, even though I'm pretty sure those two would never talk again.
From what my girlfriend has told me it seems pretty clear he had no intentions of pursuing anything serious with her, she was just an object or a toy to help get him off. One of the requests he made was a Christmas present from her. He requested a video of her masturbating be sent to him. She never did this though.
People agree that you should drop both of them. Both are bad apples and it's not hard to see that.
Not one post for keeping her, looks like it's settled then.
No. There shouldn't be. She doesn't care about you much at all if she cheated on you 3 separate times.
Same with your friend. There's other ways to communicate what he thinks about your relationship, and going behind your back to cyber with your GF isn't one of them.
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