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So many of the married people I know really don't know each other. They talk to each other but don't really talk. Their conversation is more chit chat or small talk than anything. Of course I don't know what is going on behind closed doors but I can tell they don't really know each other by observing them and asking one of the couple questions about each other.
Do you really know your spouse? Do you know about their hopes and dreams, their history, stories about their growing up, their career challenges and friends and relatives?
Can you have a great marriage if most of your conversation is small talk chit chat and you really don't know each other?
I dunno - my married friends all seem to know each other like the backs of their own hands. They all seem to have pretty good marriages. I was more freaked out by a SAHM I recently met. She was on her first solo day-outing away from her children in a year. And her husband was back at home, alone with the kids for the first time in that moment. He was playing video games because his mother was there to keep an eye on the kids. It was just saddening.
You are right, you don't really know what goes on behind closed doors so it's almost impossible to know whether or not a couple really know eachother.
If you saw my husband and I out together, you wouldn't even think we were married. I've actually had people ask me if it was my weekend with the kids while at one of my kids sporting events. We typically don't stand next to eachother and don't really interact that much.
I'm sure he doesn't know my clothing/shoe sizes, my favorite color, what my favorite meal or restaurant is or any of those little things.
He does know me well enough to know EXACTLY how I'll react to something. He can predict my every move sometimes and often completes my sentences.
We don't really talk in a public setting. We do our best talking in bed at night before we go to sleep or in the morning when we wake up. If something has been on my mind I want his undivided attention and that's the place I usually get that. Same goes for him. Nobody is privvy to our private lives except for a close friend or two, and even then I don't tell them everything. What you see on the outside is not always indicative of what happens behind closed doors.
Of course I don't know what is going on behind closed doors but I can tell they don't really know each other by observing them and asking one of the couple questions about each other.
Can you give an example of the types of questions you ask them? Does that not come across as a little strange to others?
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Do you really know your spouse? Do you know about their hopes and dreams, their history, stories about their growing up, their career challenges and friends and relatives?
Do you? Aren't you married? I find it curious that you do not reference your own marital experiences in the thread you started.
Do you? Aren't you married? I find it curious that you do not reference your own marital experiences in the thread you started.
He's the guy that didn't want to sleep on the floor at his wife's parents house over Christmas.
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