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I would be concerned that she only sees him "every other week or less". Why is that? It is highly unusual for a woman not to be close to her child let alone lose or not want custody of him and I'd want to know more before becoming involved.
Jay, does she perhaps live far away from her son or have career duties that get in the way? It is a bit strange. I know some women aren't cut out to be mothers though, and as long as the child is in good care...
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Originally Posted by jay_jay26
Because she was still in the military and was always gone. Other than that? She has always been there for her son.
I would be concerned that she only sees him "every other week or less". Why is that? It is highly unusual for a woman not to be close to her child let alone lose or not want custody of him and I'd want to know more before becoming involved.
This sounds like a catch-22. Men often think ill of women who do not have custody of their children; however, they refuse to date women who do have custody. I am not saying this is your attitude, but it is true of many men.
Because she was still in the military and was always gone. Other than that? She has always been there for her son.
Okay, but you imply she's no longer in the military. So why doesn't she now have more contact with the kid? It might not be a problem for you or it might be an issue. For example, if she doesn't have custody because she doesn't really want children and you want a family, then perhaps you shouldn't date her, but if the reason is something that you are good with, then I don't see why not.
When the hearing happen, she was still in. Her current job as a systems administrator is very demanding. She is not a bad mom, but I guess she's more career oriented.
Okay, but you imply she's no longer in the military. So why doesn't she now have more contact with the kid? It might not be a problem for you or it might be an issue. For example, if she doesn't have custody because she doesn't really want children and you want a family, then perhaps you shouldn't date her, but if the reason is something that you are good with, then I don't see why not.
First, this woman that I'm talking about is a FRIEND. Second, I'm a woman too and I don't do girls.
First, this woman that I'm talking about is a FRIEND. Second, I'm a woman too and I don't do girls.
Okay, well I didn't know that you were a woman or your sexual orientation. I guess my answer is I don't see why anyone wouldn't date your "friend" unless they were looking to start a family with someone who values family over career. And there is nothing wrong with valuing career over family, it just isn't everyone's preference.
This sounds like a catch-22. Men often think ill of women who do not have custody of their children; however, they refuse to date women who do have custody. I am not saying this is your attitude, but it is true of many men.
This is true. For a woman to lose custody means she must've reeeeeeeally ****ed up reeeeeeally bad and I mean reeeeeally bad which mean she's insane. A man loses custody by simply being a man. If she does have custody then he doesn't want to burden himself with another man's child who he can't discipline which means the child might not respect him. Moral of the story: Get married before having kids. That way at least he knows the child was created in a somewhat stable relationship.
You are a lesbian woman asking random men if they would date your straight woman friend.
WTF.
What do you want this information for?
I've seen no indication that that is close to the reason that the OP asked the question?
How did you come to that conclusion?
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