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Some of you may say that the fact that I'm questioning my love for my boyfriend is evident enough, but I'm still confused. There are times I look at him and feel really happy and think we could get married. Other times I am scared to death of committing to him. We've been together for over five years and I often feel bored and unattracted to him. There's nothing wrong with him, he's a nice guy, hardworking, has similar interests as me and he's funny (he still makes me laugh at times).
But I'm worried I'm getting to a point where I'm just settling, which I know is dangerous for a couple inching towards engagement/marriage. At the same time, the thought of breaking it off also scares me. I'm almost 30 years old and all of my single girlfriends tell me horror stories about their dating experiences. What if I can't find another good guy?
Some of you may say that the fact that I'm questioning my love for my boyfriend is evident enough, but I'm still confused. There are times I look at him and feel really happy and think we could get married. Other times I am scared to death of committing to him. We've been together for over five years and I often feel bored and unattracted to him. There's nothing wrong with him, he's a nice guy, hardworking, has similar interests as me and he's funny (he still makes me laugh at times).
But I'm worried I'm getting to a point where I'm just settling, which I know is dangerous for a couple inching towards engagement/marriage. At the same time, the thought of breaking it off also scares me. I'm almost 30 years old and all of my single girlfriends tell me horror stories about their dating experiences. What if I can't find another good guy?
Does anyone have a similar experience to share?
In my humble advice you need to take some time for yourself & work things out, then you need to sit down with your BF & tell him how you feel. Getting married is a scary thing even if we love said person with all our heart. Your age shouldn't matter nor what your friends do or say this is YOUR decsion & yours alone. If you think you can't commit 100% then your not ready it's that easy. I see people get married who were never truly ready to start with, please don't be one of those. your only going to hurt yourself & your BF.
You're settling. Please, spare yourself and your SO a lot of pain and end it. Let him find someone who truly wants to be with him and do the same for yourself.
We've been together for over five years and I often feel bored and unattracted to him. There's nothing wrong with him, he's a nice guy, hardworking, has similar interests as me and he's funny (he still makes me laugh at times).
And this is what I keep saying on here, you can be nice and hardworking and have it all together but still bore your partner to the point they want to leave you. People need a bit of DRAMA!
Modern relationships are like playing a game of "whack-a-mole."
Some of you may say that the fact that I'm questioning my love for my boyfriend is evident enough, but I'm still confused. There are times I look at him and feel really happy and think we could get married. Other times I am scared to death of committing to him. We've been together for over five years and I often feel bored and unattracted to him. There's nothing wrong with him, he's a nice guy, hardworking, has similar interests as me and he's funny (he still makes me laugh at times).
But I'm worried I'm getting to a point where I'm just settling, which I know is dangerous for a couple inching towards engagement/marriage. At the same time, the thought of breaking it off also scares me. I'm almost 30 years old and all of my single girlfriends tell me horror stories about their dating experiences. What if I can't find another good guy?
Does anyone have a similar experience to share?
It's obvious in your words that you feel you are settling, but what more do you want in a guy? Seems a lot of women feel "bored" and "unattracted" to there long term partner. I bet a lot of men feel the same way too.
If you have doubts now and you think things will get better, think again.
He seems to have great qualities. It isn't obvious to me what the problem is you are eluding to......be more specific.
Some of you may say that the fact that I'm questioning my love for my boyfriend is evident enough, but I'm still confused. There are times I look at him and feel really happy and think we could get married. Other times I am scared to death of committing to him. We've been together for over five years and I often feel bored and unattracted to him. There's nothing wrong with him, he's a nice guy, hardworking, has similar interests as me and he's funny (he still makes me laugh at times).
But I'm worried I'm getting to a point where I'm just settling, which I know is dangerous for a couple inching towards engagement/marriage. At the same time, the thought of breaking it off also scares me. I'm almost 30 years old and all of my single girlfriends tell me horror stories about their dating experiences. What if I can't find another good guy?
Does anyone have a similar experience to share?
Leave your guy so you can feel butterflies again. You'll discover that butterflies don't last forever. But give your boyfriend the opportunity to leave. You're over him at this point. Don't play any games or beat around the bush. The relationship is finished because your body isn't producing those feel-good chemicals that we often foolish associate with being "in love".
And this is what I keep saying on here, you can be nice and hardworking and have it all together but still bore your partner to the point they want to leave you. People need a bit of DRAMA!
Modern relationships are like playing a game of "whack-a-mole."
Hence why it's probably best to remain single and have a few ladies for FWBs. This way, you don't have to deal with these type of scenarios which are all too common. If people want to be entertained, go to the circus or a concert. One should pair with another not for the source of their happiness but someone that will compliment, enhance and enrich their life.
Leave your guy so you can feel butterflies again. You'll discover that butterflies don't last forever. But give your boyfriend the opportunity to leave. You're over him at this point. Don't play any games or beat around the bush. The relationship is finished because your body isn't producing those feel-good chemicals that we often foolish associate with being "in love".
Marriage is about a lot more than love. Only a fool would go into marriage thinking it'll work because they love each other, it's probably a good sign it won't because it doesn't last.
If you want a life partner then you have to accept this, otherwise your not a one man woman.
Hence why it's probably best to remain single and have a few ladies for FWBs. This way, you don't have to deal with these type of scenarios which are all too common. If people want to be entertained, go to the circus or a concert. One should pair with another not for the source of their happiness but someone that will compliment, enhance and enrich their life.
Men and women no longer need each other for survival so now we look to each other for entertainment and "feel good" emotions.
Anyone who feels that they have to have it "all together" and be super responsible to attract and keep a mate should think again! Chances are you will always come up short.
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