Once a cheater, always a cheater (girl, cheat, attracted, personality)

[Rhenzanite]

Originally Posted by filihok

You can meet me.

I only cheated once. That was...close to 10 years ago. I can't be 100% certain what the future will bring, but I certainly don't want to put myself or someone that I care about through that again.

Then you're an EXTREME minority.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by filihok

You can meet me.

I only cheated once. That was...close to 10 years ago. I can't be 100% certain what the future will bring, but I certainly don't want to put myself or someone that I care about through that again.

Why did you?

[filihok]

Originally Posted by JetJockey

Then you're an EXTREME minority.

We're all an extreme minority in something

[robertpolyglot]

No. I don't believe they are. I think that, once both men and women hit the wall, they are less apt to cheat and probably stop altogether.

[stan4]

Originally Posted by filihok

You can meet me.

I only cheated once. That was...close to 10 years ago. I can't be 100% certain what the future will bring, but I certainly don't want to put myself or someone that I care about through that again.

Exactly.
Like I said on another thread, I could never bring myself to sleep with someone else when I'm in a relationship, but smooching is still cheating.

And I couldn't do it again. It's too shameful and so self-defeating and you feel like the biggest heel ever.

I do believe there are people out there who have no problem cheating more than once. I think they view sex as something different than I do (something I can only share with someone I truly love), and they obviously don't feel bad about it.

[Camlon]

I really think it depends on the circumstances. But if a man is with a good woman who take care of him, and pleasure him, then if he cheats he is very likely to cheat again. That is because he crossed so many boundaries.

First he has to get to know her
Secondly he has to go to her place
Thirdly he has to kiss her
Fourthly, he has to take off his clothes
Fifthly, he has to have sex

At so many places he could have thought, I am doing something wrong to my wife/girlfriend, and I should not cheat. He ignored those feelings and kept going anyway. That is why cheaters are likely to cheat again, because the first time could have easily been avoided.

[carlitasway]

Originally Posted by JetJockey

Then you're an EXTREME minority.

Maybe not. Affairs are highly overrated. The grass is NOT greener. I'm not going to go into details but I don't think it's the extreme minority.

[reed067]

I have never cheated once I have been temped I was getting off at this nightclub I was working at, she saw me working & kept filirting with me though out the night. Once I got off duty she kept hitting on me I kept telling her I was seeing someone it didn't seem to matter to her much. She wanted me to take her home & give her a good spanking I wont lie I was temped that was as close as I ever came. If I would of been single oh yEAH!

[iNviNciBL3]

Originally Posted by filihok

Is it true

Of course, it is in once sense. If you've cheated, then you've cheated. It can't be erased.

But I don't think that's what people mean. I think they mean that if a person cheats once, they will cheat again.


*I don't personally believe that people are 'cheaters'. I believe that people cheat.

define:

Cheating

[Hombre]

If you cheat once, you are capable of doing so again. It's all about morals. If you are in a bad relationship and you're not happy, get out of it, don't cheat. It really is that simple. There is no excuse.