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I’ve seen it in real life but I’m pretty sure that it can be explained away by the fact that there are more women than men. And also, if I was a “hot” guy and had the options that came with that, I don’t think I would date an ugly girl either.
How frequently do romantic "exceptions to the rule" occur? Would you put a numeric estimate on the frequency with which they statistically appear in society (i.e., 1-2%, etc.)?
Some examples of what I mean by "exceptions":
1. A stereotypical but also genuinely nice guy who attracts, rather than repels women
2. A woman who is extremely attractive physically, but is also not automatically attracted to stereotypical qualities like power, status, confidence, etc. in men
3. A man who will readily date women regardless of their physical looks, and dates solely based on personality alone
4. A woman who believes that chemistry can still be acquired over time even if it is not initially present, or that a lack of initial chemistry can be successfully overcome by other external factors
...etc.
Also, do you believe that the frequency with which exceptions to the rule occur is primarily based on nature or nurture? What (if anything) do you believe could make exceptions more likely to occur?
I am somewhat #1 - a genuinely nice guy who attracts women, but doesn't have any of the passive-aggressive or covert contract issues going on. I don't expect that being nice will get me laid - or get me a relationship.
My wife is mostly #2 - extremely attractive, and not attracted to power, status, or money. She does like confidence and a man who knows his own mind, and I fit that - plus shared values, kindness, and fantastic sexual chemistry!
I have - rarely - observed #3.
#4 is fairly common, but often leads to problems (cheating, break-ups, sexless relationships) when the chemistry does not develop despite all the other "boxes" being checked.
For what it's worth, I've known a few guys who were 'plainer' looking, but had super personalities, that I was attracted to. I would've gladly dated them, if they had asked.
I’ve seen it in real life but I’m pretty sure that it can be explained away by the fact that there are more women than men. And also, if I was a “hot” guy and had the options that came with that, I don’t think I would date an ugly girl either.
You seem to think that that disparity is found across age demographics. Yes, there are slightly more women than men, because women outlive men. Hey, when you are 80, the disparity may pay off for you.
At the same time, more infant boys are born than infant girls (107:100), so you had it even worse as a baby!
By the time the sexes reach adulthood, it's pretty even numbers since dudes seem to lose their lives to misadventure and accidents more than chicks.
So try to stay safe!
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