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... if you found out somebody that you knew well, but rejected romantically had thought of you every single day since the year and half you rejected them?
Excessive ruminating over rejections (or other slights) isn't healthy. I think it's human to do that to some extent, but when it becomes habitual, you're just setting yourself up for unhappiness.
I'd be uncomfortable, in that I'd be creeped out, but not disgusted. "Disgusted" implies "angry," and I wouldn't be angry.
I would, however, put some distance between us. As Ruth said, that kind of rumination is unhealthy. I wouldn't want to be the focus of that kind of obsession.
You can't really control how other people will react to what you say or do. If you had a legitimate reason for rejecting that person and were not nasty about it, then you have nothing to regret and it really is the other person's problem. Also, you can't force yourself to be attracted romantically to someone, so it's not like you should feel bad about rejecting them.
Still this person may have built you up in his/her mind and really hoped that something would become of you two as a couple. That image may have fostered for a long time before you rejected this person, and it may take some time to deconstruct it as well.
first and foremost the same as i would if i had accepted them.
the reality of the situation is its not my problem to deal with, its something they have to learn to cope with themselves.
Ultimately, I probably would feel bad for the person that they are unable to get over a rejection and move on with their life.... but that also would not change my decision to not pursue a relationship with them and move on with my own life.
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