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Hey people first time posting been lurking for awhile but now I need opinions.
So I'm 28 just got my RN certification and for the first time I'm living on my own.
There's this guy. He has been a friend to my family for maybe 6years. He's the closest to my aunt they work together. This guy is 45 and he has been in a relationship with his now ex for about 4 years,has no kids by her.
The attraction has always been there but we always joked around. He even introduced me to his now ex and I tell him about my problems with my now ex. Asked for my number but like in a friendly way. He called that same night and I'll say it just has been great conversation between us for almost two months. Finally he asks me out and we had a great time. Goodnight kiss was amazing. Hes amazing. So I thought...
Next day my aunt calls to talk to me catch up whatever. She ends up talking about her good ol buddy.(my guy) and she says he's been talkin to his ex a lot. I'm a bit peeved but I don't say anything. Fast forward two days later we go out again.This night is different, he's clearly tryin to get in my pants. I ask him about his ex. He says they have history, they are friends.pause. I'm sorry but in my past experience exes cannot be friends. I tell him , I have work aka he gotta go. FF a night he calls me drunk sayin I can't change him. Then he cries sayin he wants to be a better man. Are u confused? So am I.
So I decide to use my aunt for more info about him. She basically calls him a drunk lose. (She didn't say none of that but the way she was talkin, its like the same thing) she also said his ex wants him back. I'm mad at myself because I like this guy I really do. Dare I say it. I love him. But he sounds like damaged goods you know? What do u think? Should I just walk away or prepare for my hostile takeover of his heart?
If you think he's worth it then sit down and have a conversation with him and find out where you both stand.......it's better to ask than to never know. I wouldn't make up my mind though until we spoke
give it two more weeks of no dates...see how he acts,,if he continuously calls, being drunk,,,you have your answer., if he keeps calling being clingy,,,and creepy,,,you have your answer..
tell him youve been hurt before and red flags are all around,,so you are cautious..
then leave him be for 2 weeks, see how he reacts
I'm thinking banging your auntie's buddy would just be a bad idea.
And if one of my buddies tried to bang one of my "nieces" (I've got some younger cousins who fit that role) while he was still untangling from an ex, they'd be finding pieces of him in various locales for the next few years.
Plus, my parents had a similar age gap - it doesn't really work that well for anyone who's not in Hollywood. Pop is a very vital man, but he is coming from a totally different place than my mother. They never did have much common ground.
Date someone who's not a family friend and who isn't old enough to be your teenaged dad.
Nothing good will come out of this relationship. Nurses are born codies, they wanna help!
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