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Your indiscretion sounds pretty minor and won't serve what you are working on. I suspect you want to let him hurt as he has hurt you but that will never get either of you anywhere.
If you can't let it go with the bf then you will stand no chance. Was he wrong? yes, Did it hurt you, Yes Will it happen again? who knows. I think you will find men think with th e little heads far more than they should.. no excuse just what we tend to do. Does it mean we don't love oour relationship[ - no, just we can make poor decisions.
use your experience as .. you are close to even and move beyond. Good luck
Correct. We're still chatting on facebook. Though I created a different user name there so my bf doesn't see it. He doesn't know I have a different hotmail email too.
I guess this is with us. I'm would never be dumb to leave an inbox open nor communicate on the account my bf knows and at least Joseph is trusted (he would never rat me out, we used to get along too as friend in high school though he fell the same way towards me back then).
I never asked to be cheated on. Now that I'm thinking, I'm not sure if I did out of pure revenge. I like Joseph and the day I was with him, it's like I wasn't even thinking about my bf at that moment. I admit I had a good time but this will not happen again. I guess I lost my mind for a while.
Can this relationship still work out? He cheated 7 months ago but I'm still hurt about it. He has shown remorse and does wants this to work.
Now here is a different issue: At some point, I reconnected with an old high school crush (Joseph) online but then we started talking more often. Anyways I didn't have sex but did some other things and this happened just last month. Though I like him, I'm going to work on my relationship. He doesn't know and will never find out. Joseph knows the situation too but won't tell and yes we're still talking on facebook sometimes. Though we've made it clear there won't be any intimate contact no more, just as friends.
I still love him but I'm still hurting at the same time. I keep wondering why he didn't have any self-control if he claims to loving me.
I'm still having a hard time getting over everything I imagine he did with the other woman. Sometimes it makes me not even want to kiss him. Currently, I'm making him work on getting my trust back.
If your bf/gf cheats on you, but then somehow you both decided to work out but you cheat back, do they even deserve to know this? I'm really not planning on saying a word about this Joseph thing. Like mentioned at least I didn't went all the way with him.
Can this relationship still work out? He cheated 7 months ago but I'm still hurt about it. He has shown remorse and does wants this to work.
Now here is a different issue: At some point, I reconnected with an old high school crush (Joseph) online but then we started talking more often. Anyways I didn't have sex but did some other things and this happened just last month. Though I like him, I'm going to work on my relationship. He doesn't know and will never find out. Joseph knows the situation too but won't tell and yes we're still talking on facebook sometimes. Though we've made it clear there won't be any intimate contact no more, just as friends.
I still love him but I'm still hurting at the same time. I keep wondering why he didn't have any self-control if he claims to loving me.
I'm still having a hard time getting over everything I imagine he did with the other woman. Sometimes it makes me not even want to kiss him. Currently, I'm making him work on getting my trust back.
If your bf/gf cheats on you, but then somehow you both decided to work out but you cheat back, do they even deserve to know this? I'm really not planning on saying a word about this Joseph thing. Like mentioned at least I didn't went all the way with him.
This is what happens when you set a low standard for yourself and others.
Correct. We're still chatting on facebook. Though I created a different user name there so my bf doesn't see it. He doesn't know I have a different hotmail email too.
I guess this is with us. I'm would never be dumb to leave an inbox open nor communicate on the account my bf knows and at least Joseph is trusted (he would never rat me out, we used to get along too as friend in high school though he fell the same way towards me back then).
I'm sure he is only looking for your best interest. Joseph I mean.
I never asked to be cheated on. Now that I'm thinking, I'm not sure if I did out of pure revenge. I like Joseph and the day I was with him, it's like I wasn't even thinking about my bf at that moment. I admit I had a good time but this will not happen again. I guess I lost my mind for a while.
I can honestly tell you it is over with BF. He broke your trust, and nothing is going to change that, it is always going to be there, you are never going to forgive him or trust him. So just end it and move on.
Second, you are living a lie, your relationship with BF is a lie, your lying to yourself and your lying to him. Even if you tell BF of your own transgressions, you will only hurt him more, just digging a knife blade into him doesn't seem to be enough, you are cheating behind his back. It is over, it has been over since BF cheated on you. GET OUT!! There is nothing to save, it is ruined. Over.
Third, great you can have a friend you had sex with. But he knows what you have done, and he knows you are cheating. You are using him as well, you are cheating on this freindship. End it as well and apologize to him when you do it. There is no way you can carry your own guilt forever in this relationship of lies.
Try and get yourself in an honest truthful relationship and learn from your past. Learn from the pain that he gave you, learn from the pain and guilt you gave yourself. It is more than the cheating transgression, but how it easy it is to hurt another human being, to say the wrong thing, to do the wrong thing and hurt others. To control your behavior so you never have to feel guilt.
My advice, is to end both situations and start a new in building your life in truth.
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