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She would have gained about 6 pounds a month average. That doesn't sound extreme if the person is overeating. I know someone who gained about 100 in a month (they went to a doctor) and it was not medical related, just emotional eating.
What? 100 in a month? I didn't think that was possible.
Yeah, could be. So should I support her from a distance?
Follow your intuition as how best to help (you do know her). Getting too closely involved may cost you a friend and any influence you have on her, IMO. Maybe give encouragement and support, but suggest that specifics are beyond your ability, and she may benefit from nutrition and medical consults. If nothing works, remind her that doing nothing may cost her a good relationship with a guy who obviously cares about her.
I'm no expert in these matters, but it seems like a common sense approach.
Your right. It's their relationship. But I'm concerned for her too you know?
I know he is genuinely worried for her.
Yea, yea, you're concerned. All you can do is ask her what's going on and leave it at that if she's not interested. Once again, you cannot dictate what foods someone else is putting into their mouth. You can't even control whether she goes to the doctor about it. Either way it usually starts off with such 'grave concern,' but turns into men discussing how much they hate fat women. (Not saying you're intentionally doing that, but that's usually where it ends up anyways).
Yea, yea, you're concerned. All you can do is ask her what's going on and leave it at that if she's not interested. Once again, you cannot dictate what foods someone else is putting into their mouth. You can't even control whether she goes to the doctor about it. Either way it usually starts off with such 'grave concern,' but turns into men discussing how much they hate fat women. (Not saying you're intentionally doing that, but that's usually where it ends up anyways).
I get what your saying. I really don't want one of those threads..
I think she should also get mental health counseling. I think there is another issue here that brought on the overeating. Eating can be very comforting and if someone is depressed/bored/whatever, food is readily available to fill the void.
Follow your intuition as how best to help (you do know her). Getting too closely involved may cost you a friend and any influence you have on her, IMO. Maybe give encouragement and support, but suggest that specifics are beyond your ability, and she may benefit from nutrition and medical consults. If nothing works, remind her that doing nothing may cost her a good relationship with a guy who obviously cares about her.
I'm no expert in these matters, but it seems like a common sense approach.
The problem with all this is that Gigi hasn't asked her for this advice. Not many people want unsolicited advice. And when that advice is to tell someone what is wrong with their physical appearance and how you can help them fix it, you are just asking for trouble. The best approach is to let Gigi live her life the way she wants. If she decides that she doesn't like her weight gain and goes to the OP to find out what gym she goes to and asks if they can work out together, working out together would be the support that she needs. Until Gigi actually has health problems, if she ever does, her weight is not an issue for her. If it is an issue, clearly she's not ready to deal with it.
When people stop making excuses and treat their problems, (depression, laziness) it will be solved.
that's what you think and spoken like someone who's likely never dealt with nor treated depression. IF you have you would know that it's not a 'take a pill and everything is fine' disease also many of those depression meds cause obesity/weight gain.
You told her "the weight is a problem "? What exactly did you tell her?
Personally, I don't think it was your business to approach her, but it also sounds like you took the wrong approach. I hope you realize she's dealing with physical and psychological effects of being overweight. You can't just tell her she's fat and expect her to have some life changing epiphany. She KNOWS she's big already.
that's what you think and spoken like someone who's likely never dealt with nor treated depression. IF you have you would know that it's not a 'take a pill and everything is fine' disease also many of those depression meds cause obesity/weight gain.
Not to mention, depression meds or any type of such medicine can be habit forming and open up a whole new set of problems. It's serious business.
I'm not excusing obesity but in this case, the overeating and not-give-a-damn attitude is probably due to something going on in her life.
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