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An update from a previous thread: talked to her after class today and secured a lunch date (unfortunately, she's busy all nights this week; but, this isn't bad either).
Since I'm super inexperienced with this stuff, I had a couple questions:
1) Are there any particular topics I should cover? As an addendum to this: should I try to 'escalate' the conversation to more 'sexual' topics at times?
2) What are your opinions on the kiss-close for lunch dates? It seems to be a bit harder since there's less privacy, but I've also read that k-closing is a good thing to do. Any thoughts?
If you have any other general first date tips for a noobie, that'd be great too.
Since I'm super inexperienced with this stuff, I had a couple questions:
1) should I try to 'escalate' the conversation to more 'sexual' topics at times?
No
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2) What are your opinions on the kiss-close for lunch dates? It seems to be a bit harder since there's less privacy, but I've also read that k-closing is a good thing to do. Any thoughts?
Depends on how the lunch date goes.
Probably not.
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If you have any other general first date tips for a noobie, that'd be great too.
Just get to know her. Ask her about why she chose XX school, where did she grow up? Sisters? Brothers? Pets? Job?
I'm kind of kidding about this, but it will help focus you. Make a list of stuff you KNOW about her, then look at all the things you DON'T know about her. Your job during lunch should be to find those things out.
(Now don't show up with an actual list. It's just an illustration, really.)
Don't worry a kiss yet. Wait until you have a nighttime date.
Yes, OP, ignore that. Lunch is fine. If you want to meet her, then go to lunch since SHE suggested it.
They can do what they want, but in my experience things work better when everybody is relaxed and it's hard to be relaxed during lunch on a workday. Weekend is another story, but the new style seems to be that nobody wants to do initial dates on the weekends anymore.
An update from a previous thread: talked to her after class today and secured a lunch date (unfortunately, she's busy all nights this week; but, this isn't bad either).
Since I'm super inexperienced with this stuff, I had a couple questions:
1) Are there any particular topics I should cover? As an addendum to this: should I try to 'escalate' the conversation to more 'sexual' topics at times?
2) What are your opinions on the kiss-close for lunch dates? It seems to be a bit harder since there's less privacy, but I've also read that k-closing is a good thing to do. Any thoughts?
If you have any other general first date tips for a noobie, that'd be great too.
no, dude, unless I'm reading too much into your post, you got the wrong approach in mind for a newbie who is doing his first lunch date, right??? heck, it sounds like you have zero experience with dating women and are in high school, but please correct me if I am wrong.
Anyway, lunch dates are cool but just focus on finding good conversation topics to get a few chuckles. like people magazine stuff, pop culture (movies, celebrities, music, etc), you can even try to stupid knock-knock jokes just for kicks (google). goal is to have her leaving feeling she had a good time with you, so you can do it again soon. avoid doing an overly-interview style approach, e.g., where are you from, what do you like to do for fun, do you go out much, blah blah blah. I know others say people like talking about themselves, but it can be to intrusive and, most importantly, b-o-r-i-n-g. IMHO, it's the number one mistake guys make when starting to conversation with a woman.
P.S.: Drop the PUA stuff, that's usually helps dudes who at least have some experience dating.
Last edited by Dr. Clean; 02-18-2013 at 01:39 PM..
Listen OP, I hate to tell you this but she's just not that into you.
I say this because she is "busy" every night. She's not. If you were Ryan Gosling, would she be "busy" every night? Like hell.
Even if she was into you, you are probably going to turn her OFF permanently. I know this because of this question -
Are there any particular topics I should cover? As an addendum to this: should I try to 'escalate' the conversation to more 'sexual' topics at times?
I have no clue what thought processes led you to consider this as appropriate.
Why would you even consider raising "sexual" topics? In real life, these things raise themselves, if and when the time is right. Steering or "casually" bringing up "sexual topics" is the sign of the creep, as is touching a woman needlessly. I am referring here to your pondering "the kiss". If it's right it will happen.
You admit you are inexperienced but honestly, what on earth has led you to believe that behaving like this is going to be successful? Really? Is this what our young men are being taught these days?
Do you watch a lot of porn where "lunch dates" are a euphemism for "let's shag on the table"?
I think this girl just wants a hot lunch and why not, she's a student and these things are hard to come by.
I completely missed the school part above. Yes, lunch is fine in the school context it sucks if you're meeting somone during your work day.
Talk? Just talk about what is interesting to you.
If you click, fine. If you don't, that's fine too.
I wouldn't push it too much, though. You have the luxury of having an entire semester to allow things to gestate.
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