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A sexual drought is no fun. I can seperate love and sex very easily. As someone else has said, some of my best sex was when we were just having fun. When you sexually trust the person you can have an absolute blast!
I'm not saying that you need to be in love with the person, but shouldn't you at least have some sort of friendly relationship with them/some type of trust before having sex with them? Quite a few of my friends go to parties on other college campuses and then end up banging 4 random chicks in one night while they're drunk and then the next day is like it never happened.
Some people are good at partioning what they do from how they feel. I'm not one of those people. Not that I'm looking for marriage, but I do like to have a little connection before we go at it like rabbits.
It's quite common for people of most age groups these days (particularly my own) to have sex with complete strangers and not have any emotions involved. Some of these people succeed in doing so, but others tend to either get attached or end up getting depressed later on because of what they've done.
For those people who can hook up and not have any emotional attachment, how do you do it? It seems like society is very open to hook up culture these days, but as a guy in his very early 20s, I can't really see myself hooking up with a random chick I know nothing about.
I have a friend who is a year older than me and he is still a virgin. His dad is constantly up his toosh trying to get him to "find a girl and bang her." It kind of makes me go and shake my head slightly, but perhaps my thought process is the one that is out of line?
I am not open for "hookup" culture and have better things to do. Woman never defined me who I am, nor will she ever do it. In fact there's a strict code of behavior and when things get out of hand of it, I usually tell it in a nice way. They don't like it? They start telling crap and make drama? I walk out. I've learned well enough that I'm not willing to put it up with something that I'm not pleased with, especially when we're not even in some later stage of relationship - just kill it off when you see bitchiness.
A father of that friend is bought into this crappy feminized culture that is USA. Man doesn't need to act like a retarded bull. That is a construct of post-world war 2 culture. But I am not surprised since men and their fathers in today's USA seem to be quite stupid and brainwashed.
Reason why I don't do "hookups" is very simple - when I want to have a great time I do it on other ways. And I know I don't need a woman to orgasm myself if I need an orgasm. That's called masturbation. I value a woman's sexuality only in one way - as a wife and mother of my children. I value sex as part of a serious relationship and an act of love towards someone, not a crappy experience with a random woman I meet or a person that I know and to have sex just for the orgasm experience. I don't need love to get turned on though, but that's lust. Love is much more than animal instinct. And I don't do things out of animal behavior, no matter how much someone promotes it - I don't need it.
If I was really into that, I'd travel to Vegas on vacation and hire a prostitute, they can definitely make much better performance and would do their best to please you well. Don't tell me that a random girl can be THAT good or good looking like escort ladies that you pay for 500$... that is if you have that money. I do, and I still value it much more than the experiencing a mere orgasm. But given the fact that some guys spend so much money on going-outs with some women just in attempts to bang them, maybe they should reconsider the alternatives, or check in for the so-called "sugar daddy" option.
I am not open for "hookup" culture and have better things to do. Woman never defined me who I am, nor will she ever do it. In fact there's a strict code of behavior and when things get out of hand of it, I usually tell it in a nice way. They don't like it? They start telling crap and make drama? I walk out. I've learned well enough that I'm not willing to put it up with something that I'm not pleased with, especially when we're not even in some later stage of relationship - just kill it off when you see bitchiness.
A father of that friend is bought into this crappy feminized culture that is USA. Man doesn't need to act like a retarded bull. That is a construct of post-world war 2 culture. But I am not surprised since men and their fathers in today's USA seem to be quite stupid and brainwashed.
Reason why I don't do "hookups" is very simple - when I want to have a great time I do it on other ways. And I know I don't need a woman to orgasm myself if I need an orgasm. That's called masturbation. I value a woman's sexuality only in one way - as a wife and mother of my children. I value sex as part of a serious relationship and an act of love towards someone, not a crappy experience with a random woman I meet or a person that I know and to have sex just for the orgasm experience. I don't need love to get turned on though, but that's lust. Love is much more than animal instinct. And I don't do things out of animal behavior, no matter how much someone promotes it - I don't need it.
If I was really into that, I'd travel to Vegas on vacation and hire a prostitute, they can definitely make much better performance and would do their best to please you well. Don't tell me that a random girl can be THAT good or good looking like escort ladies that you pay for 500$... that is if you have that money. I do, and I still value it much more than the experiencing a mere orgasm. But given the fact that some guys spend so much money on going-outs with some women just in attempts to bang them, maybe they should reconsider the alternatives, or check in for the so-called "sugar daddy" option.
I have had FWB in my 20's with people I knew and they were mixed. Some were fun and no bad feelings. Others left me feeling bad. Sex without a commitment really isn't as much fun as one would think.
I can't do it. That's why I remained a virgin. I literally was a 40 yr old virgin and thought would die a virgin. My husband is my chosen one to have sexy time with because he is the ONLY one that makes me feel comfortable about intimacy, like no inhibitions at all.
And I love my husband and all, but honestly sex is over rated. Don't see how people can be addicted to it. Mod cut: Not PG-13. I mean I actually imagined it better when I was a virgin. LOL
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and shake my head slightly, but perhaps my thought process is the one that is out of line?
