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Stalkers use background check service to find out people's address.
From now on, I will be very careful NOT to give out my full name. I have absolutely no desires running people's background before meeting them in person. What a way to live!
I agree. Don't give out your full name. I never do. There's waaayyyy too many morons and people without brains in this world. Trust me, I'm fully aware of it
I agree. Don't give out your full name. I never do. There's waaayyyy too many morons and people without brains in this world. Trust me, I'm fully aware of it
A: if you are online dating and feel paranoid you will be stalked just give them your middle name or a nickname they can call you until you go on your first date. Everything does show up on the internet even your home address can easily be found.
B: Well you are obviously not trusting him or wether he will look you up or not so until you can totally trust each other just start with a simple meeting. No one trusts anyone before meeting offline for the first time. You are still kind of like strangers still but at least you know somethings about one another. He will have his paranoias as will you.
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Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981
... before they even met you. Would you be offended?
I personally have nothing to hide. But there are certain things I definitely feel uncomfortable sharing with others, at least not before first date. I did a quick google search on myself using my full name. My youtube channel showed up, the online memorial service website I created for my loved one who died by suicide showed up. My art gallery showed up.
The most disturbing thing is that if I pay $19.99,. My whole history will show up on the internet. Where I went to school, where I opened a bank account. Obviously, what I consider to be public record and what others believe to be public records are quite different. I want my privacy to be protected at least to certain degree!!!!
My questions are
A. If my potential date did a background check on me before meeting me in person, does it mean he was overly suspicious or he was just being careful.
B. If he doesn't trust me for whatever the reasons, why bother meeting me in person. Does privacy mean anything anymore or everybody just has to accept the fact that we are open books to everybody on the internet nowadays.
I have spoken to dates/potential dates in the past regarding backround checks and I have mentioned that I hold a current SIDA badge for an international airport, which for me meant having a 10 year FBI backround check, fingerprint, criminal check and 2 phone interviews. I also have driving privileges so on top of that I had a full DMV check. Passed with flying colors (pun intended?). I do give out my nickname (just a shortened version of my real name), and since my name is spelled weird (both first and last) without the proper spelling you can't find anything on me...I've googled to check
It seems to me that the ones you would think of running a backround check on are usually the ones who are more than happy to tell you about all their trouble with the law or otherwise. They seem almost proud of it. Weird.
I have spoken to dates/potential dates in the past regarding backround checks and I have mentioned that I hold a current SIDA badge for an international airport, which for me meant having a 10 year FBI backround check, fingerprint, criminal check and 2 phone interviews. I also have driving privileges so on top of that I had a full DMV check. Passed with flying colors (pun intended?). I do give out my nickname (just a shortened version of my real name), and since my name is spelled weird (both first and last) without the proper spelling you can't find anything on me...I've googled to check
It seems to me that the ones you would think of running a backround check on are usually the ones who are more than happy to tell you about all their trouble with the law or otherwise. They seem almost proud of it. Weird.
I've done work at various government facilities for about 20 yrs.
I've had my background researched more than I care to remember, I don't recall how many envelopes I've received at the house with search results letting me know I've been "researched"
It seems to me that the ones you would think of running a backround check on are usually the ones who are more than happy to tell you about all their trouble with the law or otherwise. They seem almost proud of it. Weird.
I've done work at various government facilities for about 20 yrs.
I've had my background researched more than I care to remember, I don't recall how many envelopes I've received at the house with search results letting me know I've been "researched"
Yep. When the place I used to work started writing up contracts for the local Air Force base (I had to get a badge to go on base to drop off fuel samples and paperwork) my family started getting a bunch of calls from the government/Air Force and started freaking out a bit
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Obviously, what I consider to be public record and what others believe to be public records are quite different. I want my privacy to be protected at least to certain degree!!!!
