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yeah they have commercials about that website. There may be more.
Maybe I'm just raised in the old ways, but I was taught respect and to try to not offend people. If you can't trust me after a date or 2, you're not going to trust anyone.
No. I would ask to see it and then ask if the wanted to do theirs next. Then pull out my tablet and get to it right there.
Some of those things are so poorly put together and don't have all the correct info at all. Those companies are a joke.
One site I pulled info from had me listed as 29 years older than I was. LOL
I think that would be rather fun and laughable on a date. You can NOT lie about you age with that kinda gap. LOL
First, they'd have to know enough about me to obtain one, and usually a full name and an address or phone number (to distinguish from someone else with the same name) is all they'd need, so that's an easy hurdle. It's also why I prefer to keep dating site contacts on the site rather than go to private email, to avoid giving away more than I want known.
If anyone did do a check on me without my permission, and I found out, they'd instantly be history. I wouldn't trust their motives. I don't do them, and if anyone wants one, they should ask me first.
... before they even met you. Would you be offended?
I personally have nothing to hide. But there are certain things I definitely feel uncomfortable sharing with others, at least not before first date. I did a quick google search on myself using my full name. My youtube channel showed up, the online memorial service website I created for my loved one who died by suicide showed up. My art gallery showed up.
The most disturbing thing is that if I pay $19.99,. My whole history will show up on the internet. Where I went to school, where I opened a bank account. Obviously, what I consider to be public record and what others believe to be public records are quite different. I want my privacy to be protected at least to certain degree!!!!
My questions are
A. If my potential date did a background check on me before meeting me in person, does it mean he was overly suspicious or he was just being careful.
B. If he doesn't trust me for whatever the reasons, why bother meeting me in person. Does privacy mean anything anymore or everybody just has to accept the fact that we are open books to everybody on the internet nowadays.
share insights and thoughts please
Whoa! I always wondered about these services. I may pay for my own just to see what pops up.
Recently, someone I dated did everything short of paying for a backround check on me. I had done nothing IMO to warant such concern. I was quite insulted. Talking with some friends, it seems that many people google each other, especially if you meet them from online dating. But normally you don't tell the other person.
This person googled me and then some. At that point, I concluded her trust issues were more than I was willing to deal with. If I had given her valid reason to look me up, then ok, I would understand. But to perform a full blown online investigation on someone 'just cause,' isn't going to work for me.
I'd be so gosh-darned offended that I would confront him and tell him not to bother me anymore. If he wanted to know anything about me, he could just ask me. I'm not a liar and have nothing to hide. If I tell him and he doubts me, then he can take a hike.
There are paid website out there. As long as they know your full name, you are pretty much screwed. You know what I mean?
Have your run a background check on yourself to see what they have on you?
I did a background check on someone, another family member ran one on that same person, but with a different company. We didn't get much, and the information we did get wasn't the same. Ultimately I think we each had tidbits of correct, but incomplete information.
This was a nonromantic relationship, and we had a good reason to pursue the check.
Not really sure how much those $20 companies actually offer.
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I did a quick google search on myself using my full name. My youtube channel showed up, the online memorial service website I created for my loved one who died by suicide showed up. My art gallery showed up. 
Obviously, what I consider to be public record and what others believe to be public records are quite different. I want my privacy to be protected at least to certain degree!!!!
