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I simply want her to know that the words/actions of those people do not represent my true character in any way shape or form.
Aside from the fact that someone else' action cannot reflect on your character, did your mother never explain to you that you don't always get what you want?
Aside from the fact that someone else' action cannot reflect on your character, did your mother never explain to you that you don't always get what you want?
My mother is sympathetic. A trait many here are lacking.
As I mentioned before, I have discussed this with my Mom. She suggested that perhaps I wait until the end of the year. This seems the wisest thing to do given the fact, that it could cause a disturbance during the school year.
I will take your advice; I will wait until after graduation to give her the letter. Thank you again for posting.
I would still appreciate suggestions regarding the letter, as I continue to plan it's format.
She could also use it as evidence after high school...how is that going to make a difference? It's stalking evidence, particularly if, after the letter, you get no response and then try to contact her to make sure she got the letter...then try to contact her to find out if she got your message, etc., etc., ad nauseum...which you are bound to do.
The truth is that sympathy is not always what is necessary.
Yes, exactly. Sympathy is not what he needs. He needs firm guidance and in all seriousness medication. Speak to your mother about this please, not about the girl, but that you need to see a psychiatrist who can help you with a very serious mental illness that I think you might have. Even for a high school student this is not normal; this is a stalker obsession. I am not trying to be mean, I am actually giving you the very best advise that I can and I will be praying for you. Honey, you need help and you need it fast – you are mentally ill and there is no shame in it, it can be easily fixed with medications.
And you can't simply tell her this in person because?
Not being mean here, just honest: I think he doesn't want to tell her in person because she is so nervous around him that she might scream at him to go away & embarrass him, OR because he would have to hear it face-to-face then, and he does NOT want this to be final.
He wants to use a method of communication that can either be misunderstood or "requires" (in his mind) some sort of follow-up, so that he won't have to stop contacting her yet.
I think this is his method of "legitimately" (in his mind) staying in contact her without her calling the police.
So the answer is no. No one is unsympathetic to you. Or... ok few. The truth is that sympathy is not always what is necessary.
Yes, and in this case, it would be sympathy for someone displaying stalking behavior. I do not believe that stalking behavior -- which hurts both of them and could grow in intensity and danger -- should EVER be condoned, not even in a gambit to appear sympathetic.
We're going to read about this guy in the paper some day unless he shapes up and faces reality. Some sympathy *toward the girl* is warranted here. Can you imagine what her high school experience has been like with this guy staring at her constantly in a creepy way, scaring her, stalking her for three years, basically, and his friends going up to her again and again to bring his name up yet again just when she thought she could relax and take a breath? She is probably scared out of her wits. Poor girl.
What if this were happening to your child? (The generic "you," not the poster I quoted.)
OP this makes me think. Is there a trusted adult you can talk to about this? A guidance counselor? Someone you respect who, when they tell you that maybe you are touch out of your tree, you might listen?
Many CD posters have suggested that I seek someone to speak with in person. My mother has known about this for some time, and has been most helpful.
Jay, I think the best idea is to write the letter, but then burn it or tear it up.
This can actually be a very healthy exercise for you
Put everything you need to put into it to pour your feelings out about the situation, then let it all go.
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