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So me and my BF have been dating now for 6 months. Great guy except for some drama over an ex-girlfriend that's been stalking him. She tried to get him to leave me and take back up with her, and when that didn't work, she called and left some nasty voicemails on my cell phone, in a desperate attempt to break is up.
Me being the super awesome person I am.... Her efforts were unsuccessful. Now, I still have those voicemails, and I am contemplating what, if anything, I should do with them. She is an educator that teaches at the same high school as my BF, and where my daughter attends school. The only way she could have gotten my cell phone number was to access a secure school database, so I'm sure she has violated some professional standards. My BF told me it was my decision whether I should report her behavior to school administrators, and I just haven't been able to make up my mind. In the meantime, so many scenarios of what I could do keep running through my head.
My questions for you is this.
1. What would you do if you planned to stay in the relationship?
2. Is that different from what you would have done if the relationship had ended?
Have you considered that perchance your short term 6 month bf is still seeing this woman? Don't think for one minute it's not possible. I was dating a guy (about the same length in time) when he not only married the "ex-girlfriend" he claimed he had no contact with, but also got her pregnant. Now they have a luxurious lifestyle in UAE with their daughter.
So, now you need to consider that she went through his phone. Girls such as her do those things. I wouldn't get the school involved. It will backfire, make serious problems for all three of you, and most importantly, it's not going to make you feel better about her tacky behavior. And if the bf is playing the field, you just gave him a reason to leave - who knows...you don't!
The spotlight should be more on the bf, not just the crazy ex. There are men out there that love this kind of drama, and he could be playing both of you. So 1) If I planned to stay in the relationship, I would stop analyzing the situation and get some space to clear my mind because it's not urgent that you make a decision today. Consider the facts and then make a decision. 2) what I would do would not be different if the relationship ends. In fact, I think you should ask more questions with a clear mind. If you can't believe the bf or lose trust in him, maybe it's just time to be the BETTER person and walk away. Another one bites the dust...
He can install on his smartphone, a program that will only allow certain numbers to call. You can restrict only certain numbers too - it's a nice program - and it's free.
He can add her number to the 'BLOCK CALLS AND TEXTS' to that list - and he'll never get another call or text message from her (from that number).
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