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I got upset and kind of like snapped; one of those overheated arguments in the past and I ended up backing him against a wall and shook him a bit and yelled. She saw it and hates me more since then.
Sounds like she has a reason to both dislike you and not to trust you. Domestic violence is not only man against woman, but it can be woman against man or in this case, girl against boy. There is never a reason to lay a hand on another person unless that person is striking you and you are defending yoursrlf.
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She thinks I'm a bad person that is controlling her son.
Maybe you are. You just said you "kind of like snapped" and "backed" him against a wall where you shook him "a bit" and yelled at him. You sound like someone not in control of themself to be honest.
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She needs to get a life.
Sounds to me like she has legitimate concerns about the safety of her son.
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My bf chose me and he's not a minor anymore. But that was last year and she is still not over it.
And here again you sound controlling. I can certainly see why she might have a problem with you. The truth is that while your boyfriend did choose you, to that mother, he is still her son. She loves him and she weants what is best for him. If you also love him and want what is best for him, you will try to change the type of person you are and make ammends with the mother.
Second: It is NOT how badly one was hurt, it is the actual PHYSICAL PART of the entire incident. If you cannot control your anger and physically touch someone YOU have LOST CONTROL and YOU need to get help to learn HOW TO CONTROL YOUR ACTIONS.
Third: I do NOT care that you "think" you have been trying to make it up since it happened, in my opinion there is NOTHING you can do to "make it up". Your behavior and actions are NOT ACCEPTABLE on ANY LEVEL and would NOT be tolerated in MY HOME. You are lucky it was NOT ME who saw what you did, your hiney would have been arrested and charged with assault.
Great post! Glad others see the same things that I see in her own posts.
You escalated an argument into a physical confrontation with her son and LAID HANDS ON HIM in front of his family. I would be doing everything I could to break the two of you up also. It was "his fault" that happened? You sound like a typical abuser.
You're a mother's worst nightmare.
I know that's not how to solve an argument but I couldn't think straight in that moment. I admit the first time was me getting upset over him spending less time with me but the second time he yelled at me so I reacted that way.
This only happened twice and we've been dating for almost 2 years. Abuse would be something that was ongoing and happening too often. An abuser would have to be a really mean tough bully like Chris Brown.
But everything has been ok afterwards. It's hasn't happen again and won't. I know I made a mistake which caused his mother to hate me more but I'm now trying to be the best gf.
I'm not familiar with that post. Did I miss it in this thread? OP, if this is true, know you are responsible for your choices, including weather or not to be intimate with someone.
Yes it's true. It happened twice. She caught me the second time but it hasn't happen since. No, it wasn't to be intimate with him. It was during an argument and I got upset.
This is my first relationship so maybe that's why I overreacted and well he would forget about it fast.
I got upset and kind of like snapped; one of those overheated arguments in the past and I ended up backing him against a wall and shook him a bit and yelled.
So you've got a temper huh?? Might be something you need to work on.
Sounds to me like she has legitimate concerns about the safety of her son.
I understand what I did was wrong; that I agree but you're making it sound like I would be considered a threat to him. The truth is he can take care of himself, probably fight two guys at once. When I backed him against the wall and shook him, if he wanted to get out then he could have just pulled me aside and left. He did nothing.
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And here again you sound controlling. I can certainly see why she might have a problem with you. The truth is that while your boyfriend did choose you, to that mother, he is still her son. She loves him and she weants what is best for him. If you also love him and want what is best for him, you will try to change the type of person you are and make ammends with the mother.
I was trying to make amends with her by being nice and buying her a b-day present but that didn't work. What else would you be doing if you were me?
So you've got a temper huh?? Might be something you need to work on.
True but I'm trying to be better now. Maybe I'm too much of an alpha girl. I'll be honest. I never liked being a follower and tend to have this ''Let's do it my way or I don't care what you think of me'' attitude at time but I'm trying to change.
Sure it is. People this is a young girl. Stop picking on her! (I don't mean this comment all the others- "he can do better than you." and she can do better than him. We can all "trade up" what is the point of talking like that to the OP?) The mother doesn't seem so mature herself and we can safely say she's chronologically an adult! Just avoid the mother OP and be polite when you have to deal with her. Be better than her. Don't say you're better than her, BE better than her. No bragging. In time it will become obvious.
She got physical. She cornered him. That **** ain't cool. The fact that the op will do this and blames her boyfriend is purely and simply irresponsible. That isn't picking on her. That is being honest. Yes, the bf's mother is clearly in the right. If anyone harms your child you're damn right they will defend and protect. That's what parents do.
To the Op...What are your plans for life after high-school?...Have you taken PSAT & the SAT,if so how did you score?Do you have a job lined up for this summer?Do you have or do you plan on getting your driver's license? Why am I concerned about these things?...I'm not but you should be...not whether some guys mother likes you or not...maybe ten years from now when you might be in the financial and emotional place to really have a relationship with a guy...then worry what his mother thinks of you!!!
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(I don't mean this comment all the others- "he can do better than you." and she can do better than him. We can all "trade up" what is the point of talking like that to the OP?) The mother doesn't seem so mature herself and we can safely say she's chronologically an adult! Just avoid the mother OP and be polite when you have to deal with her. Be better than her. Don't say you're better than her, BE better than her. No bragging. In time it will become obvious.
