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I used to be a dancer. I can't say Im proud or ashamed of that. I didn't really enjoy it, but I liked the money. When I met my husband I was dancing for about 3 years, we were both 28. I have never done a drug in my life and am pretty catholic (an oxymoron I know). Well anyway, My husband like most men, thought it was cool when we met, and could brag to his friends that he was dating a stripper. He eventually grew to care for me, and I did him. He didn't want me dancing for other men. While you don't plan on getting serious, make sure she's not involved of some things that come with dancing, some of the illegal things, make sure she's a good person underneath it all, that way if you end up falling for her there won't be any issues.
AND JUST FOR THE RECORD!!... Not all strippers are trashy, drug users that end up doing porno's. I have never done a drug in my life and have only slept with 2 people and one of them was my husband! While it was a loooong time ago, Im still sensitive, I think some people need to stop being so stereotypical. I needed the money badly, I didn't associate with the other dancers. As far as the clientele, most of them were young guys, not scuzz balls or married me (note I say most not all). Some of them are putting themselves through school, others are single moms doing their best. While I agree that the majority are involved in other activities, it's not fair for anyone to pass judgment..
I don't think that ALL strippers are bad. But my very limited experience has been off putting.
I do think that there are other ways to make money and that I would respect myself more being a garbage woman, then being a stripper. Even if it meant I had to take a second job.
I do think it can show that this is the type of woman who likes to have stuff NOW!! That's why she's willing to take her clothes off because it pays well. That's ok, but there are other things she could be doing to make money that don't involve bumping and grinding.
Eh, whatever - I don't have anything against strippers per say, more what seems to go along with the industry which I think of as being sleezy and taking advantage of women with issues.
From what I have heard a lot of strippers DO seem to have drug and alcohol issues, and/ or poor self esteem. Probably didn't help that the only stripper that I have known personally exactly fits that profile.
I'm sure there are good ones and bad ones, just like in any other profession.
AND JUST FOR THE RECORD!!... Not all strippers are trashy, drug users that end up doing porno's. I have never done a drug in my life and have only slept with 2 people and one of them was my husband! While it was a loooong time ago, Im still sensitive, I think some people need to stop being so stereotypical. I needed the money badly, I didn't associate with the other dancers. As far as the clientele, most of them were young guys, not scuzz balls or married me (note I say most not all). Some of them are putting themselves through school, others are single moms doing their best. While I agree that the majority are involved in other activities, it's not fair for anyone to pass judgment..
Oobie; it's funny that you only slept with 2 guys, one of whom is your husband! That's definitely not what I think when I think of a stripper!
But I have to ask; didn't you consider doing a different type of job? I know it's nice to make LOTS of money, but lots of people don't and they get by. Did you consider doing anything else?
Has it ever been an issue between you and your husband? No respect issues?
If that's too personal a question, then just ignore it, but I am interested.
If so, we wouldn't have pedophilic priests running around would we?
No it doesn't. But it's interesting why some people chose one path, and others another. There has to be a reason why a woman would choose to strip above anything else. There are lots of jobs out there.
I'm wondering why a man wouldn't date a stripper? If a man walks into a stripclub and watches a dancer, tips her, and there is a mutual attraction, why on earth would she not be good enough for him to date?
Now if you bumped into each other on the street and she said "I'm a dancer" and the man has no desire to go to strip clubs I can see where that may scare him off. But I see a huge double standard with men actively going out to strip clubs but then refusing to date the dancers. That makes no sense to me.
If I go to a strip club its because the women are pretty, and they are dancing around naked. Obviously. Although there is alot of social aspects as well when you go with buddies that is involved.
Would I be attracted to strippers? Of course. Most of them are very attractive. Which is why they are stripping.
But you'd have to be a complete moron to date someone based on looks alone.
Any guy that thinks otherwise is either a loser that cant get a date and/or someone who always gets played on.
Sure you can go on a date with some hot chick you meet downtown. But once you find out the warning signs, such as she: is a stripper, is a porn star, is a hooker, performs donkey shows, or is otherwise just plainly a skank, that doesnt mean that you should continue to date her because you're "attracted to her." [weep]
Guys that go out with skanks, and neglect the warning signs receive no sympathy for me.
For example: Wendy (not her real name) is hot. Anytime me or my roomates throw a get-together, shes always invited and always almost comes. We invite her, and her type, over because she is extremely flirtatious, and rather easy. She has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend knows she's a big flirt, and usually has to come to the "rescue" when she puts her arms around a guy. Needless to say, hes almost been in several fights (he's not welcome to the house btw ). I dont feel sorry for the guy at all because he is a loser that wants to feel like an "Awesome Dude" dating a hot chick. He should know his girl is a skank, or incredibly stupid.
Unfortunately, no matter how you look at it. No matter how "deep into her soul" you get. And understand why she's a stripper, that alone is a warning sign. Dont try to rationalize it. Strippers have those tendencies already. If they're willing to lower their morals for money, they are wiling to lower them even more for many more reasons.
When I told a guy that when we first got together, my wife was a dancer, I was puzzled by his reaction and comment "That didn't bother you?"
Then I realized that he thought that she was a stripper. It never entered his mind that she may have been into ballet and modern dance.
What's even stranger is that during the period I was talking about, there were no "strip clubs". "Topless bars" were just beginning to emerge. "Stripping" was limited to traditional burlesque houses with a stage and runway.
This guy was my age and should have known all that, but in his mind, the way things are now is how they always were.
Well, I think the money is a big deal, especially if you're working your way through school or have a kid to feed.
So the choice is yours: $8 an hour at Burger King with taxes taken out, or $200-$500 a night in tips, without having to perform lap dances. I can understand why a lot of women would make that choice.
But here's my question. What if a woman makes money doing nude modeling for painters, sculptors, or fine photography? She's doffing her duds for money, right? Would that be much different?
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). I dont feel sorry for the guy at all because he is a loser that wants to feel like an "Awesome Dude" dating a hot chick. He should know his girl is a skank, or incredibly stupid.