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From The Atlantic (thread title is title of the article):
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Women want sex far more than we've been allowed to believe. So suggests a new book that shatters many of our most cherished myths about desire, including the widespread assumption that women's lust is inextricably bound up with emotional connection. Are men ready to cope with the reality of heterosexual women's horniness? The evidence suggests we aren't, at least not yet.
In his just-released What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire journalist Daniel Bergner suggests that when it comes to acknowledging just how much women lust, we've passed the point of no return. Bergner profiles the work of a series of sexologists, all of whom have, after a series of fascinating studies with animal and human subjects, come to what is essentially the same conclusion. Women want sex just as much as men do, and this drive is "not, for the most part, sparked or sustained by emotional intimacy and safety." When it comes to the craving for sexual variety, the research Bergner assembles suggests that women may be "even less well-suited for monogamy than men."
Bergner's work puts what may be the last nail in the coffin of the old consensus that women use sex as a means to get something else they really want, such as enduring monogamous emotional intimacy and the goods and safety that come in marriage with a protector and provider.
Have any of you folks read the book? Or the research it's based on? How will this affect relationships?
From The Atlantic (thread title is title of the article):
Have any of you folks read the book? Or the research it's based on? How will this affect relationships?
There was a long article about this in the NY Times recently. It said that women are hard-wired to look for a new mate after the one they've paired off with gets too familiar (read: boring). They're programmed to have sex with as many men as possible.
This isnt exactly news, nor is it any sort of a surprise. Ive known this for years and told you all more than on one occasion. Most still refuse to admit to it, because of lingering social stigma that follows. Which is also normal and expected.
No surprise and nothing new. That said I don't get the "can men handle it."
I have been puzzled for decades why it's always the man that is expected to do the asking for dates when both genders (for the most part) want the same thing.
The "old" theory supported by evidence is that male sex drive is stronger. For example, see: J. Ostovich and J. Sabinbi. "How are Sociosexuality, Sex Drive, and Lifetime Number of Sexual Partners Related"? Pers Soc Psychol Bull 2004 30: 1255 and Roy F. Baumeister, Kathleen R. Catanese and Kathleen D. Vohs. "Is There a Gender Difference in Strength of Sex Drive? Theoretical Views, Conceptual Distinctions, and a Review of Relevant Evidence". Pers Soc Psychol Rev 2001 5: 242.
However, there is some evidence that the gender gap is decreasing, but still exists. For example, see: J.L. Petersen and J.S. Hyde. "Gender Differences in Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors: A Review of Meta-Analytic Results and Large Datasets". JSex Rsch 48: 2011, 149-165.
This is largely a debate about nature vs. nurture related to attitudes, behavior and openness of expression in self-reporting. The extreme view is Marxist, namely that men have constructed female sexuality to go along with their socio-sexual objectives.
One interesting feature that also seems to stand out is that "manly/boyish" women have a higher sex drive than the female average, both in terms of body-type and socio-sexual orientation.
Our own experiences are anecdotal. They are based on a comparison of our own experience (n=1) to our lifetime sex partner sample (n=?). And i would guess that our sample of anecdotal "reporters", here, is also far from random.
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