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I am not sure if this is exclusively an American thing but how come there are so many ****ed up people in this society? I feel fortunate to have parents who were for the most part, normal and taught me values, morals and good things. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 years and we have an incredible relationship, the only thing that gets in the way sometimes are some "issues" from her childhood, although they are not major, I have sacrificed a lot to keep the relationship going and do not regret it at all. I was wondering how other people deal with people who have major issues from childhood like dysfunctional families, sexual abuse, people that need attention desperately, compulsive liars and such. I think that if my girlfriend had some major issues, I would have left her by now but I am not sure how most people deal with people who have major issues.
my exwife struggled with trust issues stemming from her childhood, and it ultimately resulted in her leaving me.. she struggles with those issues to this day.
my exwife struggled with trust issues stemming from her childhood, and it ultimately resulted in her leaving me.. she struggles with those issues to this day.
See, this is exactly the kind of response I was looking for. So, in this case, I am assuming, it did not matter how good of a man you are, she would have left you anyways. I just feel like it is so unfair for a person like you to have to pay the price for something that is not even your fault
People are messed up in this society because the priorities of society are screwed up. The moment we decide that we don't have to have the biggest, brightest, latest and greatest, a new car every year, etc., etc. we will no longer have to work two jobs to keep the family financially afloat and we can concentrate on and pay attention to our children. Maybe then we can raise a society not filled with neurotic, damaged people.
my exwife struggled with trust issues stemming from her childhood, and it ultimately resulted in her leaving me.. she struggles with those issues to this day.
Last SO had major trust\jealously issues stemming from string of bad relationship choices. Frankly, I don't see her EVER finding someone to be with longterm...way too erratic which is sad because she is otherwise a good person.
Last SO had major trust\jealously issues stemming from string of bad relationship choices. Frankly, I don't see her EVER finding someone to be with longterm...way too erratic which is sad because she is otherwise a good person.
exactly.. i loved my ex deeply, and we are still friends (we also share a daughter together), but i don't forsee her in permanent long-term, unless she found a way to put up with me again.
Story of my life. Clearly, I had my own for staying as long as I did. I think it's mostly a lack of personal responsibility to "own" the damage they cause to be able to do something about it. When this is all they know, they're comfortable with it and don't see a need to fix it. Thus, eveyone around them pays for their issues.
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I was wondering how other people deal with people who have major issues from childhood like dysfunctional families, sexual abuse, people that need attention desperately, compulsive liars and such.
I avoid them.
I suspect that people with serious issues are more likely to wind up with a companion who also has issues. That's what it is all about, right? Mutual understanding of each others' flaws and problems?
People are messed up in this society because the priorities of society are screwed up. The moment we decide that we don't have to have the biggest, brightest, latest and greatest, a new car every year, etc., etc. we will no longer have to work two jobs to keep the family financially afloat and we can concentrate on and pay attention to our children. Maybe then we can raise a society not filled with neurotic, damaged people.
I agree...this society pressures ppl to do what society thinks you should instead of what right for you......
Your supposed to have kids, buy a house, compete with your neighbors...etc etc etc. Its all just a waste of time and is hurting the kids...kids are messed up because of their parents doing or non doing. And if the adults of today would get their head out their @sses long enough to see that then maybe the kids of tomorrow will be better. Also I think ppl shouldnt be afraid of therapy and should use some form of it when things get rough for you. But alot of ppl feel they will be labelled and/or have too much pride to let some else help them get through things.
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