Girl does not call or text back and it is driving me crazy... (girls, kiss)
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Ignore all the naysayers. There's no problem here. Just let it develop and go with the flow. If she wasn't interested in you she could have easily avoided being on the couch next to you in a house full of people. Or let you take your cab earlier when you offered.
There could be umpteen reasons why she never answered your texts or calls. Based on her comments, maybe she just has low self esteem and figured you weren't going to stay interested in her so why get her hopes up? Or she wanted to see if you would be persistent and chase her a bit. Or she was just busy and forgot until it would have been awkward to reply. Or something else entirely. It's pointless to analyze words and actions because 9 times out of 10 you'll just get it wrong and generate needless stress.
you made out all night but you didn't push the action forward? you slept in her bed and didn't get in her panties? it sounds like she just wanted the D and you didn't even give her that. honestly, I think you only chance you had at getting to know her better was to rock her world in the sack, and that obviously didn't happen. I'd tell her straight up exactly what I said here, and then never talk to her again (you aren't likely to ever hear from her again anyway, but maybe she'll appreciate the honesty).
The only way to be happy in your situation is be in the same frame of mind she is in. Out of sight, out of mind. No need to text or call if you aren't seeing each other at the moment. But if you just happen to be sitting on the same couch or in the same club, hey why not have a little fun? If you want anything more than that, you'll probably be disappointed.
So here is the situation..I live in Las Vegas and she lives in San Diego. She came to visit with a few of my friends ( ex co workers ) 4 weeks ago. As soon as we arrived at the club, she started to hit on me. Because all of our friends were around us, I tried to slow her down a little bit but she was very agressive...Later on, we started to make out and spent the rest of the night together, just chatting, getting to know each other and kissing...It was very nice. She kept begging me not to tell everyone as she works with most of them and if things would progress we would just make things officlal which was no problem for me. The whole time she kept asking me why I do not have a girlfriend, personaly questions about me and we just could not stop kissing.
She left and I called her two days later to see how she was doing and tell her that I would love to see her again. She texts me the next day and just say hi and hope I am doing well. I text her back the next day ( it was late when I got her text and was in bed by then )..Nothing.. A week pass and I was going to San Diego to see friends and figured I would text her one more time to let her know that I was in town and that I would love to see her if she is available. Nothing.. So I figured I would just give up. She probably used me as a Vegas fun bag....
I spend my weekend in San Diego and the friends I am staying with tell me that they are invited to a BBQ and that I should come as two other friends would be there. We arrive and I realize I am at her house ! Instead of being awkward, we both stayed cool and friendly to each other as if nothing happened...
The afternoon goes by and at one point we are on the couch next to each other and she whisper to me that she is very sorry she never got back to me, that she feels like an ******* and she thanks me for being so nice to her the whole afternoon. She asked me if I hated her and I said of course not, I was just confused as to why I never heard from her but we are cool, things happen.. She tells me that a guy like me can do a lot better than her and that I would be a dumb ass if I liked her to which I reply that I am ok being a dumbass and I am the judge of who I like and not like... She kissed me on the cheek.. I look at her and she starts to kiss me.. We are making out on the couch and I guess our friends so that and took off to leave us alone...
I now realize that I am left alone in the house with her... I tell her that I was going to take a cab. She looks at me and ask me to stay...
We have a drink, she fixes a quick dinner and we are making out on the couch, watching movies, talking about work ( I used to be the GM of the restaurant she works at now but never worked with her ). She tells me that she's been thinking about moving to Vegas etc..
We spent the rest of the night making out, snuggling.. it was nice...
At 5am, I had to leave to take a cab and head back to Vegas... I get ready, go by the bed to get a kiss goodbye.. She is sleeping so I kiss her, say bye and say " I ll see you soon I hope " to which she replies " yes ".
My question is.. what is her deal? When do I text this one or call her? She is very confusing to me... sends mixed signals.. She never replied my texts the first time.. yet lets me stay with her when I accidentally arrive at her place? One would think that if she did not like me, she would have asked me to leave when I told her i was going to call a cab?
I do not know.. I am a little host and would love any advise...
What?!
This woman is basically all but short of screaming at you, "I WANT YOU!!"
This is a hook up situation, and you MUST have white knight tendencies.
See it for what it is. Have fun with her or leave her alone.
Even I would he able to read that she wants to hook up, you had 2 green lights, and you stopped both times.
Yeah I only read the first half of the OP, not the second half. Maybe the OP can tell us whose idea it was to make out and that's it (twice), his or hers?
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