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I've been noticing I lose interest in guys quickly. I get so excited and I love being around them at first but after a short time I get tired of being all lovey dovey and my attraction decreases. I feel bothered and like I don't want to be around them anymore.
I'm 20 (almost 21). I've been in a bad relationship that might have had a damaging impact on me. I really hope it doesn't have a chronic effect.
If the guy is over there 24/7 then it's too much and too soon in the relationship. There needs to be lots of space in the beginning in order for the "mystery" to get you hooked. I'm sure all guys have known about not calling the girl for at least 48 hours after you get her number right? Same principal. If you call her right away then you are going to lose her interest because there is no "mystery". Why doesn't he call? Did I do something wrong? Is he interested in me at all? Am I too fat? Then when you finally do call a couple of days later she is happy to hear from you. It's all about having the upper hand.
I'm guessing these guys you are seeing are in the same age range? early 20s? Guys have no experience or game at that age and they don't know how to play the game. Date an older guy, late 20's or early 30's and you'll see the difference. You won't ever get bored with an older guy because he knows what he is doing and how to keep you interested and on your toes.
If the guy is over there 24/7 then it's too much and too soon in the relationship. There needs to be lots of space in the beginning in order for the "mystery" to get you hooked. I'm sure all guys have known about not calling the girl for at least 48 hours after you get her number right? Same principal. If you call her right away then you are going to lose her interest because there is no "mystery". Why doesn't he call? Did I do something wrong? Is he interested in me at all? Am I too fat? Then when you finally do call a couple of days later she is happy to hear from you. It's all about having the upper hand.
I'm guessing these guys you are seeing are in the same age range? early 20s? Guys have no experience or game at that age and they don't know how to play the game. Date an older guy, late 20's or early 30's and you'll see the difference. You won't ever get bored with an older guy because he knows what he is doing and how to keep you interested and on your toes.
I agree. I get overwhelmed easily so it is probably because it's too much for me right now. I think I need something gradual in order to grow. The guy I am dating has never been in a relationship and has only kissed a girl. I had fun at first trying to get him and then after a few times of hanging out after "getting" him, the thrill faded and I felt like I wanted a break. He seems to really like me, wants to constantly be with me. He just turned 20.
At your age, you should have 4-5 guys chasing you nonstop. It wont be that way forever, just like the feeling of falling in love is only for a moment. W
When you meet a new guy, try dating him sparringly, as in going on a date once a week.
It's probably that you don't have enough in common with them. Are you trying to find "the one?" If so, consider this practice and the weeding out process. Other members have given good advice and it can be those things but it also could be that you're young and exploring and you haven't connected with someone as of yet. Be young, get to know yourself, have fun.
I definitely think too much. I find myself wanting to know all the answers to everything; why I feel this way, should I be worried, etc. Do you think it's strange I lose the attraction I had for them, too? The not wanting to even kiss them anymore kind of scares me.
Future bad boy lover. What kind of badboy are you going to waste your life lusting after?
Pretty much.
It always starts out like this.
Ignore and lose interest in the decent guys but get totally attracted to bad boys but them come back to the good guys in your 30s.
Bad boys are the only men that seem to hold the interest of women who are in their 20s.
Once the OP hits 25, she won't have these options forever.
Extreme pickiness at work here.
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