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That post was a book. Nearly read all of it, too.
I skipped other posts, so I hope I won't be redundant.
Step back from relationships for a while. You're not ready for anything serious. Things are unsettled. You need some peace of mind and clarity.
Would you ever say, "I have a strong dislike for the sun. It just does too much to give people cancer" There are so many many benefits from the sun, and without it life on this planet could not exist. So don't blame the sun for the ways people have misused it. Likewise with Christianity.
I also can't agree that "most women are like" the OP's girlfriend.
The position he finds himself in now is all on him. Until he takes the time and effort to figure out WHY he made the choices he did, then learns to forgive himself for those choices, he will never be free of this pain. I sincerely wish him well with that.
That is an excellent post. No offense, OP but, people like to blame Christianity because their didn't turn out the way they wanted. Really, they were really just screwed up people in a bad relationship at the wrong time. Nobody chose your relationship. You did it on your own. Easier to blame someone else I guess.
That is an excellent post. No offense, OP but, people like to blame Christianity because their didn't turn out the way they wanted. Really, they were really just screwed up people in a bad relationship at the wrong time. Nobody chose your relationship. You did it on your own. Easier to blame someone else I guess.
it's a bad analogy because a rational person could find arguments for or against christianity whereas only a fool would argue against the value of the sun
when you make a metaphor you make a bunch of tacit implications - thus this particular one is a metaphor that only appeals to those who already agree with the premise. to a nonbeliever, comparing christianity to the sun is about as valid as comparing science to the air we breathe
it's a bad analogy because a rational person could find arguments for or against christianity whereas only a fool would argue against the value of the sun
when you make a metaphor you make a bunch of tacit implications - thus this particular one is a metaphor that only appeals to those who already agree with the premise. to a nonbeliever, comparing christianity to the sun is about as valid as comparing science to the air we breathe
Uhhh, excuse you . Did you not read the OP's post? It mentions C H R I S T I A N I T Y and how it played a role in the OP's bad relationship. Therefore, "LovesMountain's" used a GREAT analogy. There is no denying that. It is so apt and fabulous, it should be a sticky.
Anyhow, nobody cares that you don't believe in Christianity. So keep it to yourself. Such a bizarre comment.
Uhhh, excuse you . Did you not read the OP's post? It mentions C H R I S T I A N I T Y and how it played a role in the OP's bad relationship. Therefore, "LovesMountain's" used a GREAT analogy. There is no denying that. It is so apt and fabulous, it should be a sticky.
Anyhow, nobody cares that you don't believe in Christianity. So keep it to yourself. Such a bizarre comment.
perhaps you didn't notice but i was already replying to loves mountains about this analogy. we'll have to agree to disagree. i stand by my point, which you didn't actually address. as far as keeping it to myself and "nobody cares", lovesMountains and i never have problems discussing this topic on the board before, so i don't think i'll listen to your abrupt commands on this one
perhaps you didn't notice but i was already replying to loves mountains about this analogy. we'll have to agree to disagree. i stand by my point, which you didn't actually address. as far as keeping it to myself and "nobody cares", lovesMountains and i never have problems discussing this topic on the board before, so i don't think i'll listen to your abrupt commands on this one
You're right about one thing, I had not paid any attention to you before you rudely interrupted my conversation with LovesMountains. I don't think you understand, I don't care what your point is because I don't share your so called "beliefs" or lack thereof. Therefore, it is irrelevant, to me, and to the OP's conversation.
OP specifically mentioned Christianity. I addressed it. first you said Christianity was the cause of his bad relationship. Then, in the mother of all ironies, tried to hijack my conversation by saying you don't believe in Christianity and therefore it is irrelevant. If it is irrelevant or non existent, then why are you making it an issue and blaming it on the OP's bad relationship? I think you're being very hypocritical and manipulative. Your real agenda is to bicker and argue with Believers. Be honest and call a spade, a spade.
Mods: keep this one in check! He's looking to fight with Believers.
It doesn't matter what her reasons are. Do not sit around hoping she will come back to you when she and the engineer split. You deserve better. Keep saying the mantra "I deserve better."
I agree with this. Sorry I didn't read your entire post but I got the point. I have learned that we should never try to "understand" or make excuses for or explain the actions of our significant other, when they end the relationship. It is better to accept the fact that the relationship is over, and move on.
It doesn't matter why, what matters is that is is over, and you must go about getting on with your life and being open to someone new who will appreciate you. Best of luck to you.
You're right about one thing, I had not paid any attention to you before you rudely interrupted my conversation with LovesMountains. I don't think you understand, I don't care what your point is because I don't share your so called "beliefs" or lack thereof. Therefore, it is irrelevant, to me, and to the OP's conversation.
OP specifically mentioned Christianity. I addressed it. first you said Christianity was the cause of his bad relationship. Then, in the mother of all ironies, tried to hijack my conversation by saying you don't believe in Christianity and therefore it is irrelevant. If it is irrelevant or non existent, then why are you making it an issue and blaming it on the OP's bad relationship? I think you're being very hypocritical and manipulative. Your real agenda is to bicker and argue with Believers. Be honest and call a spade, a spade.
Mods: keep this one in check! He's looking to fight with Believers.
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There are so many many benefits from the sun, and without it life on this planet could not exist. So don't blame the sun for the ways people have misused it. Likewise with Christianity.
. Did you not read the OP's post? It mentions C H R I S T I A N I T Y and how it played a role in the OP's bad relationship. Therefore, "LovesMountain's" used a GREAT analogy. There is no denying that. It is so apt and fabulous, it should be a sticky. 
