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My best friend from high school has been married 3 years and they have a 2 yr old son together. He and I are both 24.
My high school crush is 21, & she recently got married. My sister is 21 & is engaged to be married. Another friend of mine out west is 23, married, & he and his wife just had a son last week, and another is 24 and is married with two kids....
My mom as well as other family and friends have gone "why can't you find a nice girl?" And my mom is already excited about grandchildren because my sister is now engaged. And yet hear I am, turning 24 in two months, no prospective dates, no girls interested in me, and that's not changing anytime soon.
I know as I get older the odds are going to be stacked against me more and more, & I've heard that if you cannot get your love life together by age 26, it's nearly impossible afterwards
I just feel like everybody around me in their 20s is getting married, having kids, & so in love and that I'm going to get left behind
Anybody else in that situation now or were you in that situation in the past
I don't get any external pressure, but I make a lot of internal pressure for myself. I think the types of responses you get on here will not necessarily help you feel better because it's a lot of well-intentioned pep-talk like:
"Just go on out there and seize the day!" or
"You're still young!" or
"You can find love at any age (followed by example of person in their 70s finding someone)!"
All of which is true and none of which I disagree with. However, that kind of "rah rah" talk doesn't really help you feel any better. Realistically speaking, at your age, you're definitely not correct because I just saw a story on my local news last week that said that the average age for marriage in America is now in the upper-20s. So clearly not everyone is married a few years out of college. That being said, if everyone around you is, then no amount of that kind of talk will make you run around skipping in the park.
Similarly, you view everyone as happily married and having wonderful, romantic evenings with each other. Realistically, you know in your head that's not true, too. I've seen lots of men and women divorced by your age, which I'm sure you don't want. Other people may be married but not in a "love-filled" marriage by any means. But again, that's irrelevant because this isn't about your brain comprehending it.
I say that because I'm quite a bit older than you and in your situation and I agree. I mean, I "get" all of those things, but it doesn't make me feel any better or stop irrationally thinking everyone in the world is in some sort of Disney film that I was left out of. It may make you feel better to know that I'm in the same boat (or you may be laughing uproariously in front of your computer and saying "ha ha ha, at least I'm not THAT loser!!").
My best friend from high school has been married 3 years and they have a 2 yr old son together. He and I are both 24.
My high school crush is 21, & she recently got married. My sister is 21 & is engaged to be married. Another friend of mine out west is 23, married, & he and his wife just had a son last week, and another is 24 and is married with two kids....
My mom as well as other family and friends have gone "why can't you find a nice girl?" And my mom is already excited about grandchildren because my sister is now engaged. And yet hear I am, turning 24 in two months, no prospective dates, no girls interested in me, and that's not changing anytime soon.
I know as I get older the odds are going to be stacked against me more and more, & I've heard that if you cannot get your love life together by age 26, it's nearly impossible afterwards
I just feel like everybody around me in their 20s is getting married, having kids, & so in love and that I'm going to get left behind
Anybody else in that situation now or were you in that situation in the past
Regarding the bolded section above, I don't agree with that at all. You need to do what's right for you and not worry about what everyone else thinks. If you're not ready at this point in time, you need to tell your family/friends to back off with the comments, and work on getting your act together. People mature at different times and what's right for your sister and your friend doesn't sound remotely like it's right for you now. I don't think there's any shame in that, so work on being comfortable and confident with yourself and I'm guessing the ladies will see that confidence and respond positively to it.
too early. enjoy your life. may be between 30 and 40. child(ren) means responsibility and time dedication. go for it when you will be ready to sacrifice part of your life.
What difference does it make that I live in Orlando? It's a city where most women has their first child before age 20
That has a lot more to do with socio-economics than with location. Educated, professional women (even in Orlando) are generally not having children before age 20.
orlando is a happening city, not back woods hill country. and my guess is you are either mistaken about very young moms or do not venture outside your trailer park.
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