Ever regret a potential relationship you passed up on? (dating, boyfriend, how to)
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The other day a friend of mine bumped into a girl he knew in college. She seemed very interested in him then, but he is a devout Jew and she was not Jewish or interested in becoming so. They were friends through graduation, and having seen her again, he now wishes he had pursued a relationship when he had the chance (they are both married now).
That got me thinking about a suitor I rebuffed in high school. He was a very attractive Vietnamese immigrant who did not speak English. He was in the ESL program at school, but we shared a gym class two years in a row. Another Vietnamese boy who did speak English told me this other boy really wanted to take me to a dance, and I declined. He seemed like a sweet, gentle kid, but I was put off by the language barrier and concerns about his family and both of our friends. I have often thought in hindsight that I made a mistake by not giving him a chance. It would have been a fascinating journey, maybe even the love of my life for all I know.
Have you ever passed up a potential relationship? Why? Regrets?
I don't know if I ever had the opportunity for relationships, but I regret that I didn't try. I always assumed that nobody would ever want to be in a relationship with me, so I never even thought about the possibility. I regret that I may have been wrong.
Have you ever passed up a potential relationship? Why? Regrets?
Yes, when I was living in Massachusetts I sunk into an anti-social rut. I don't really know how or why that happened but during that time frame I caught the attention of a pretty but fat woman on the train to and from Boston. I did not view her weight as a negative. She tried to get my attention for quite while even losing weight but I was just in too much of a weird, depressing funk to pursue.
Since moving to NH eighteen months ago that anti-social funk has lifted. Once again I don't know how or why my attitude changed. Under most circumstances moving to a new place does not alone miraculously heal psychological issues. That is a topic for the psych forum.
I regretted not pursuing the train woman. Recalling how I screwed up that whole situation, I recently forced myself to ask out a woman I was interested in at work who was being laid off. I just could not tolerate more what ifs and second guessing yet again. It felt very good to get the definitive answer and it has been a bit of a watershed moment for me.
Yes, when I was living in Massachusetts I sunk into an anti-social rut. I don't really know how or why that happened but during that time frame I caught the attention of a pretty but fat woman on the train to and from Boston. I did not view her weight as a negative. She tried to get my attention for quite while even losing weight but I was just in too much of a weird, depressing funk to pursue.
Since moving to NH eighteen months ago that anti-social funk has lifted. Once again I don't know how or why my attitude changed. Under most circumstances moving to a new place does not alone miraculously heal psychological issues. That is a topic for the psych forum.
I regretted not pursuing the train woman. Recalling how I screwed up that whole situation, I recently forced myself to ask out a woman I was interested in at work who was being laid off. I just could not tolerate more what ifs and second guessing yet again. It felt very good to get the definitive answer and it has been a bit of a watershed moment for me.
Sooooooo...you're killing me! What happened?
A woman on a train. Pretty mundane in reality, but it sounds romantic. I met my current boyfriend of 3 years by chance, when we were both traveling. He was sitting outside his hotel having a cigarette, waiting for a cab. As I walked by, just taking in the area after an interview, a guy across the street gave somebody the finger and yelled, in a very comical way. That drew both of our attention, and made us both laugh. I stopped for a minute to see who the guy might have been yelling to, and my future boyfriend said to me, laughing, "People don't know how to behave anymore. I've seen some really funny s*** in this town." I just said, "Yeah, tell me about it"...the rhetorical way, you know what I mean. But he said, "Don't mind if I do." He told me a couple of stories and invited me into his hotel for coffee, blowing off his cab. An hour and a half later he really had to leave, but we exchanged contact info. I didn't think I'd hear from him and more or less forgot about it, but he called a week later after he got back home and we've been dating ever since.
I almost kept walking that day. Glad I didn't.
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