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As a general rule unless you are dealing with a total jerk, most men like advances from all women. She might not be your type, but obviously you horned her up enough to make an "advance". That feels good no matter who it is/was. Maybe she will catch you on the right day and not look so bad after all. I still always say a great part of a womans attractiveness is her hornyness. A 5 can go to a 10 real quick like that. That 10 who is a cold lifeless soul and deadfish might make a 3.
Let her know you haven't seen her in that light, you've appreciated your contact together and would hope that could continue, but you don't have romantic feelings for her. It's a dichotomous choice (yes/no) and while this may be reviewed in the future, I'd say put a stake in it, tell her no chance, and let her decide to move on. Suggest you would like to remain in contact, but you don't want to hold her back from finding the real Mr. Fantastic. And with that said, offer sympathetic support for her relative disappointment. She should bounce back quick enough and still enjoy the friendship you have. Most women get this. Most guys are typically bruised, which doesn't make sense because guys get 'no' more frequently, but all nevertheless continue on with life and the pursuit of happiness.
"Thank you, I'm flattered because you are such a great person, but I can't see us in a romantic way."
Then do your best to ease any awkwardness.
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Tell them to f*** off. That's what I do only if they are annoying me. It never fails.
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Originally Posted by Mikala43
"Thank you, I'm flattered because you are such a great person, but I can't see us in a romantic way."
Then do your best to ease any awkwardness.
I like how you compliment them in order to make them feel better. I don't think that they would care that you think they are a great person even in the unlikely event that you were being honest.
Last edited by Yellow Jacket; 10-22-2013 at 10:32 PM..
"Thank you, I'm flattered because you are such a great person, but I can't see us in a romantic way."
Then do your best to ease any awkwardness.
This has always worked on me and not have hurt feelings. Thats the thing you want to express lack of chemistry not flaw as a person or not good enough. Good luck
Actually one of the most gracious turn downs I remember hearing was from a Movie character who was written as anything but polite and Gracious. It was when the gay artist character in "As good as it gets" hits on Jack Nicholson's character, or said something flirtatious. To which Jack replies along the lines of "You know - I would be the luckiest man alive if they did it for me".
The result being he at the same time complimented the other person - flattered their value - while also saying "Not interested". A good line.
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