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Not necessarily true. All the man has to do is sign the papers consenting to the adoption/termination of his rights. Doesn't mean he put in any more effort than signing some papers.
Darn it... don't blow my hypothetical good guy of a man out the water! lol
It's harder for a woman to judge this I think, because in most cases (unless it was a married couple) them man really doesn't have any say.
Going to the contraceptives and pregnancy topic. Look, the fact is while most contraceptives will work and most people who do get pregnant aren't using them... there is always a chance of failure. The risk might be small, but every time a fertile man and a fertile woman have sex they could conceive.
Some means are more effective than others, but no birth control is 100% effective. And I was surprised to find out (when looking for numbers) that a vasectomy still carries the risk of failure (Birth Control Chart). And also keep in mind, in some cases, you don't even know if the other person it using it right (did a woman forget a pill or did she take antibiotics (which negates the pill)? Did the man tear the condom a little in his haste to open the foil, etc).
I have to wonder, maybe women are more in tune with the whole how contraceptives work (and fail) more so than men because our OB/GYNs go over this stuff and lecture us every year when we see them and give us all sorts of warnings. Do men get lectures on this topic when they go the the doctor?
However, I've met plenty of men who, when asked if they have children, reply "Not any that I am aware of."
As a dude, I have had some male friends tell me the same thing and it's always followed by a laugh. I've assumethey mean it as a joke, in part, because it makes me feel better about them if it is an attempt at humor.
Sometimes the most responsible thing to do it to give a child up for adoption. In fact, you could argue that fi someone gives a child up for adoption, it's always the most resposible thing for them to do in that case. I'd much rather find out I was given up for adoption by parents who were not ready to raise a child for any reason than to be raised by some of these idiot parents I see around.
You are dating someone with the idea that you might marry them. She or he tells you that s/he once gave a child up for adoption. How do you feel? And is this better or worse than having an (early) abortion?
Life happens. I wouldn't feel any different one way or the other, be it adoption or abortion, other than perhaps feeling empathy for them for having to make such difficult choices in their life.
You are dating someone with the idea that you might marry them. She or he tells you that s/he once gave a child up for adoption. How do you feel? And is this better or worse than having an (early) abortion?
I guess it would all depend on the situation as to why he/she had to make such a decision. I mean, was it because they were too young to care for a child at that time, or was it just a choice they made because they didn`t wanna be burdened or weighed down with the responsibility of raising a child?
Yes, this is definetly the BETTER choice they could have made versus killing the child, and not at least give him/her the chance to live! There are a ton of couples out there, who cannot have a child of their own, who long nothing more than to give their love to a child!
I would much rather find out she gave up the baby for adoption than aborted it.
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