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If I'm blunt, I'm a b****. If I'm passive aggressive, I'm leading them on. I think meet-ups are the worst due to extremely clingy, clueless men following me around after several attempts of politely wishing them well, but explaining I'm going to chat with the others. What's a decent but firm way to turn down a guy you have no interest in at meet-up groups, bars, ect?
Hate to break it to you, but you can't win when it comes to turning a man down. I'd say be honest, let him know in no uncertain terms that you are not interested. The guy can't do all that much to you if he is in a place where there are witnesses. Sadly, you are going to be dealing with a bunch of unstable people who will turn into destructive babies if they don't get what they want.
It's a no win situation for you. Guys do not like rejection. It's a shame they turn into jerks towards you if you say no. I think your best option is a polite no thank you, and express your not interested. You cannot stop an individual from being a jerk, but you certainly do not want them to think your "no" is a "maybe" either. (Of course, there are individuals who won't take "no" for an answer either).
Looks like you're hanging out with the wrong crowd.
I was just rejected or friendzoned two days ago when she texted me upfront. I texted back, and said "Alright, cool. I understand". Won't text her again until she text me first. That's how I am, but unfortunately, half of the guys out there will keep begging by texting more.
You just need to be upfront and say "I'm not interested and would be interested as a friend".
If I'm blunt, I'm a b****. If I'm passive aggressive, I'm leading them on.
If you are too blunt (i.e., rude) then you are acting like a B----. And if you are passive aggressive, then you are indeed leading them on.
See, there is a thing called the "middle". You can politely say, I am not interested or no thank you. If you do this and "most of the time" the men still are not getting it, then you need to go to different places where men are men and not boys. Most of the time, a polite turn down is enough.
Just give a polite social level smile and say "No, thank you" and turn away.
Just keep repeating until the message finally gets through. You might have to change that to "No thank you. I really am not interested".
No need to be rude, but it is not a kindness to give false hope, either.
I wonder what sort of places you are hanging out at if perverts are following you around and annoying you after you have told them that you are not interested in them. You might try changing where you are going.
See, there is a thing called the "middle". You can politely say, I am not interested or no thank you.
I have done that and sometimes that makes it worse and they become confrontational.
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I wonder what sort of places you are hanging out at if perverts are following you around and annoying you after you have told them that you are not interested in them. You might try changing where you are going.
Meet-up groups are the worst. But another time just out with my ladies, I had a drunk guy relentlessly pull me towards him. When I bluntly said, "NO! Stop touching me!" He said, "Why do you have to be such an ***h***?!" There's just no winning.
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If you do this and "most of the time" the men still are not getting it, then you need to go to different places where men are men and not boys. Most of the time, a polite turn down is enough.
