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Background info: I have known the man (49 yr old, i'm 43) for about 5 years. He owns a business in the area that I frequent. Whenever I go, we'll say hey and chit chat ...etc. I like him and I'm from the old school where the guy should initiate more. (ask for #/date...)
Well about two or three months ago he did and said he'd give me a call. a month went by and no word, so I thought he just wasn't interested and blew it off. Then one day he saw a friend of mine and told her that he forgot to call me. So about a week later he calls, we went on date and had a great time. He called couple of days later said he had a good time and asked if i'd like to do it again and I said sure. He said "that's the right answer" and he'd call shortly. That was a month ago, no word yet, again.
i'm assuming he's just not that interested. some things he said on our date surprised me though, like when he said "maybe you're the catholic girl I've been waiting for all my life" and later he said "we belong together because we complement each other so well" why would he say these things and screw with my mind/ feelings; when he called after our date he said I could call him if I think of something to do in the mean time. I called day before yesterday, he didn't answer. left voice mail, hasn't returned call. go figure.....
He was fishing and depending on your response or lack of he may have decided you weren't the one.
Oh, even "old school" people are inconsiderate.
Background info: I have known the man (49 yr old, i'm 43) for about 5 years. He owns a business in the area that I frequent. Whenever I go, we'll say hey and chit chat ...etc. I like him and I'm from the old school where the guy should initiate more. (ask for #/date...)
Well about two or three months ago he did and said he'd give me a call. a month went by and no word, so I thought he just wasn't interested and blew it off. Then one day he saw a friend of mine and told her that he forgot to call me. So about a week later he calls, we went on date and had a great time. He called couple of days later said he had a good time and asked if i'd like to do it again and I said sure. He said "that's the right answer" and he'd call shortly. That was a month ago, no word yet, again.
i'm assuming he's just not that interested. some things he said on our date surprised me though, like when he said "maybe you're the catholic girl I've been waiting for all my life" and later he said "we belong together because we complement each other so well" why would he say these things and screw with my mind/ feelings; when he called after our date he said I could call him if I think of something to do in the mean time. I called day before yesterday, he didn't answer. left voice mail, hasn't returned call. go figure.....
What you need to take away from this experience is that this guy is consistently, INCONSISTENT.
His actions show that he has a pattern of promising to call but then failing to do so.
How many more examples do you need before you get this?
Cut him loose. There are other guys who won't treat you like this.
Seriously? the guy says he 'forgot' to call and you say he must have ADD or auditory processing disorder? Statistically speaking, it is more likely that he is just an ordinary alcoholic, if you really need a reason or excuse for his behavior.
But you don't: He said he would call, he didn't. The OP called, he didn't call back. Doesn't take a diagnosis to understand that, whatever the reason, He Just Isn't That In To You.
No I'm not saying that's what happened but offering it as one possible explanation based on the way he behaved before and based on my experience with a man who honestly thought that I had not replied back when he messaged me on FB and then expected me to email the answer back. He was really miffed about that and it took some talking to help him see that if you send a message on FB and you want an answer back, you should look for it on FB. LOL, he's not a dumb guy either--quite bright really--but probably has ADD. Not sure though. Honestly, I have it myself and if I'm interested I'm not going to forget to call someone back but everyone is different. If this is his problem and he thinks the OP missed a date, then he may not call back b/c he's thinking she's not that into him. Yes, it's a bit farfetched, but I've seen it happen is all. Otherwise I tend to agree that he's not really showing enough interest. The fact that he owns a business is also what makes me think he might be ADD--they are more likely than the general population to go create their own jobs and be more independent minded.
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Same sort of thing happened to me. First date he said let's pray before we eat and he said the prayer. I saw that as a good sign since I am a Christian. He told our server that I was the future Mrs. He also had said we compliment each other so well, isn't this the best date you have ever been on. We went out a few more times then close to two months later he disappeared on me.
What the heck?
I don't get men. He called me out of the blue this summer after 7 months of no contact.
I ended up speaking to him in September. I saw him once this past month to try to give him a second chance but I just don't trust him now.
I hope for your sake things work out better for you. You don't deserve this kind of treatment. I know it hurts.
Hopefully he has a really good explanation for you and that you can work on things.
But if not there is still a great man out there for you.
That's actually pretty easy to figure out... he liked you, but someone 'better' came along so he ditched you and went with the other woman. When that didn't work out (7 months later) he came back to you hoping you'd have forgotten about the disappearance and would want to go out with him again.
This has happened to me a lot. Don't give him a second chance... he'll just ditch out on you the second a better prospect comes along.
Same sort of thing happened to me. First date he said let's pray before we eat and he said the prayer. I saw that as a good sign since I am a Christian. He told our server that I was the future Mrs.
On the first date? Isn't that a bit creepy/clingy sounding?
People in general can act like this. I have had it happen to me a few times. Go on a few dates, everything seems to be going well, at times I have heard they never went out with a guy so nice, and can't believe I am still single, and can't wait to see me again, and then just vanish. I leave a message, send a text, no response...so that is my answer. A few of them like a month or two afterwards have tried to contact me back, but I never responded. When I first got into dating it used to bother me a lot, now I just accept it as this is the way people are now, and just move on. Too many other things to worry about, then concern myself with someone who doesn't want to even talk to me, let alone be with me.
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