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OP, if you cannot be physically attracted enough to this girl to maintain an erection for sex, you are not shallow.
Sex is obviously important enough for you to give up on this relationship. If the physical attraction is not there, you can't force it, even with the help of sexual pills.
Don't tell her it's her body, make up a lie and say it's her kids. It will probably hurt less.
She'll know. I mean, everything is going well and he breaks up with her almost immediately after seeing her naked for the first time??
Coming from someone that this has happened to more than once, it's pretty obvious and lying won't help.
To the OP, just break it off if you don't dig her. She'll be hurt and her self esteem with be shot but it's either that or be resentful and guilty about not being attracted to her.
On the flip side of this - I wouldn't want someone to stay with me because they feel guilty even if they aren't physically attracted to me. Shallow or not - it is what it is. I really only want to sleep with people that can't keep their hands off of me - not ones that have to pretend that they like what they see.
Oh - and THIS is one of the reasons that I always preferred to have sex with people I was comfortable with!
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On the flip side of this - I wouldn't want someone to stay with me because they feel guilty even if they aren't physically attracted to me. Shallow or not - it is what it is. I really only want to sleep with people that can't keep their hands off of me - not ones that have to pretend that they like what they see.
Oh - and THIS is one of the reasons that I always preferred to have sex with people I was comfortable with!
I feel the same way. I want someone that wants to see me naked and feel my body against their body.
On the flip side of this - I wouldn't want someone to stay with me because they feel guilty even if they aren't physically attracted to me.
Of course.
That's why it's stupid when people pretend those are the only two options.
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