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Old 12-03-2013, 12:52 PM
 
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I have another quick question for the posters here.

So, last Friday at about 6pm I was at a local bar having a beer and these two girls asked me to play pool with them. They wanted to play doubles and so they found another guy. This very cute, nice girl wanted to be my partner.

Fast forward 2 hours. We're all having a really good time, drinking, chatting. The cute girl, N, seemed interested in me but she was also getting pretty drunk. She asked me for my number so I gave her my card and then she and her friend left.

It's been 4 days and she hasn't contacted me. I found her on Facebook. Should I message her?
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Old 12-03-2013, 01:11 PM
 
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I have another quick question for the posters here.

So, last Friday at about 6pm I was at a local bar having a beer and these two girls asked me to play pool with them. They wanted to play doubles and so they found another guy. This very cute, nice girl wanted to be my partner.

Fast forward 2 hours. We're all having a really good time, drinking, chatting. The cute girl, N, seemed interested in me but she was also getting pretty drunk. She asked me for my number so I gave her my card and then she and her friend left.

It's been 4 days and she hasn't contacted me. I found her on Facebook. Should I message her?

NO! That's creepy.

If you must AND you didn't just serach her name, but her profile could have come up through some mutual friend, then you should wait a month and write something like, "hey, i saw u are a friend of X, i think i met you a few weeks ago, remember me? " But almost certainly she won't be interested, since she never called you.
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Old 12-03-2013, 01:13 PM
 
Location: Terra
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Absolutely not. If she doesn't contact you, just let her go.
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Old 12-03-2013, 01:23 PM
 
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I'm wondering why I can't immediately see this as creepy. I guess I'm just not a good judge of what comes off as creepy and what doesn't. If a girl searched a guy on facebook and messaged him, would that be creepy?
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Old 12-03-2013, 01:28 PM
 
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the ball is in her court, leave it there. She has your number, she'll reach out if she wants to.
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Old 12-03-2013, 01:32 PM
 
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Why not? If she thinks it's creepy you have nothing to lose as you don't talk to her now at all anyway!
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Old 12-03-2013, 01:32 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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the ball is in her court, leave it there. She has your number, she'll reach out if she wants to.
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Old 12-03-2013, 01:35 PM
 
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I'm wondering why I can't immediately see this as creepy. I guess I'm just not a good judge of what comes off as creepy and what doesn't. If a girl searched a guy on facebook and messaged him, would that be creepy?

if she gave her number and he didn't call, then yes. Because he can easily contact him,but doesn't, shows lack of interest. How did you find her? Did she give her last name?

go ahead and message her, then let us know what she says. sounds like youre going to anyway.
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Old 12-03-2013, 01:35 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Lmao, go for it

hehehe
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Old 12-03-2013, 01:38 PM
 
Location: If I tell you, will you visit?
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I'm wondering why I can't immediately see this as creepy. I guess I'm just not a good judge of what comes off as creepy and what doesn't. If a girl searched a guy on facebook and messaged him, would that be creepy?
If a girl gave me her number....let's say I felt she was the type of gal who is just a little too needy for my tastes, and I didn't call her; I would be freaked out if she showed on my FB a few days later. There is very sound advise on here. Trust it
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