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I'm so upset at that she would actually do that. She basically told everything to my bf of 6 months about things that took place about a decade ago (I'm now 26) and how I joked about it in my last message I send her towards the beginning of this year and never apologized.
My bf read the whole thing she wrote in detail, about my friends, her and me when we were all teenagers. That woman wrote it as if I had ruined her or something. Now our relationship hasn't been the same because he didn't know this. He asked if it was all true and if I felt sorry. I said yes but nope, I don't feel sorry whatsoever. Should I send a message telling her to stop meddling in my relationship? I have already tried inviting her to a party a while ago with all my friends and she declined it.
She is practically causing my relationship. It wasn't been the same since.
Where are you from ?
I am guessing english is your second language ?
Sounds like your friend of 10 years isn't as good of a friend as you think she is.
You may want to stop giving her any more details that she may use against you.
that means you Don't give her personal information about yourself. Talk about hobbies, the weather, news, but no more personal or he said she said stuff.
Where are you from ?
I am guessing english is your second language ?
France originally. Later on, I traveled to Brasil but for a short time. My family comes from different backgrounds.
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Originally Posted by AverageGuy2006
Sounds like your friend of 10 years isn't as good of a friend as you think she is.
You may want to stop giving her any more details that she may use against you.
that means you Don't give her personal information about yourself. Talk about hobbies, the weather, news, but no more personal or he said she said stuff.
She has a hatred towards me so I wouldn't really call her a friend. I haven't given her any personal information. She told him everything about our HS days and in her mind thinks my friends and I have always been unfair to her.
what exactly did she tell, that you stole her man?
I didn't steal her man. I didn't even have a bf at the time. She told him about the two times my friends and I gave her a wrong address when inviting her to a party and other things. She went on describing me as the same girl from back then, never accepting when I did something wrong and how I left quickly (that's true; I just didn't feel like keep listening to that) when we bumped into each other once and she reminded me of those times.
If your boyfriend in adulthood is seriously judging you on petty, immature behavior from when you were 16 years old, you have bigger problems than a former friend who is meddling and isn't over 10-year old slights.
If your boyfriend in adulthood is seriously judging you on petty, immature behavior from when you were 16 years old, you have bigger problems than a former friend who is meddling.
This is what I've been thinking. I don't understand why I need to even feel some regret for those things we did in HS; I don't. I still like joking around with my friends and I'm a funny person by nature.
I guess I would be concerned if a person I was with had a pattern of doing crappy things that continued to be a problem. Is your BF concerned that you still act like you did when you were sixteen or something, still live the same type of lifestyle, whatever? Is that the case?
This is my last message I send her in April after we bumped into each other by accident and she obviously didn't seem happy to see me. This invitation got declined but I still went to the party with my friends. I didn't think she would still have that message saved and send it to my bf.
Sorry to hear that high school affected you so much and that you think I was awful to you. We were just joking around. You might want to stop taking things too serious, it's not healthy. I just happen to be a funny person by nature. Anyway I think we're past high school by now. BTW my friends and I are going to have a party sometime next week. If you want to stop by you can, when you're ready to stop focusing on the past. bye now
Isn't this the same issue that you posted about back in April and it still isn't resolved? If she acted like a fool at a public event over something that happened in high school, it's her problem, not yours. If this isn't the same issue then your "friend" isn't being a good friend and she's probably not a friend at all if she's going behind your back and telling your boyfriend things about your past.
If your boyfriend isn't mature enough to respect you and will use the past to judge you then he's not being a very good boyfriend. What you've done in the past in high school should have any affect on your relationship.
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