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I've been thinking lately that one of the most depressing things is when you are single, and yet you are sitting around not doing anything in particular to make yourself more amenable to finding a good partner.
So lately I've tried to do at least one or two small things every day that would advance me in that category, while also start to plan for slightly bigger things every once in a awhile.
For example,
Small thing: Today I'm going to go for a run, because it's a healthy thing to do for your body and mind, and because it's better to actively engage in activities than to be a lazy slob who sits around and does nothing.
Small thing: When I spend the day in town, I'm going to dress decently nice and not just lazy in sweats, because being a sloppy dress will make you less attractive in general to females.
Large thing: I'm going to begin a workout regimen to get myself in better shape and make my body much more attractive and desirable.
Large thing: I'm going to learn and get good at a skill or interest, especially something a lot of other people in this area enjoy doing socially, in order to meet more people and set myself up for success.
Does that make sense? It not only is proactively bettering your odds for finding someone, but it also helps you feel better about yourself and your life because you are being proactive about it and not just sitting around bitter over what's not happening in your life.
Immediately go get botox, juvederm, spend $$$ on makeup (the fancy Japanese kinds), small boobs B cup and under need to be "corrected" with enlargement, fake eyelashes, lose weight even if it does not suit your frame...but only lose it on your belly. Find a magical way to put the fat from there on your rear and hips because men like that. Oh wait, there is liposuction and fat redistribution...
Males:
Remain picky and wonder why you can't find a woman that looks like something off of a Maxim mag or Vicky Secret catalog IN REAL LIFE.
Keep comparing real life women to the celebs with endless means and endless teams of photoshop specialists and editors. That's always useful.
Immediately go get botox, juvederm, spend $$$ on makeup (the fancy Japanese kinds), small boobs B cup and under need to be "corrected" with enlargement, fake eyelashes, lose weight even if it does not suit your frame...but only lose it on your belly. Find a magical way to put the fat from there on your rear and hips because men like that. Oh wait, there is liposuction and fat redistribution...
Males:
Remain picky and wonder why you can't find a woman that looks like something off of a Maxim mag or Vicky Secret catalog IN REAL LIFE.
Keep comparing real life women to the celebs with endless means and endless teams of photoshop specialists and editors. That's always useful.
Mmmmmmk. Very funny. Anyone care to share a real response?
Mmmmmmk. Very funny. Anyone care to share a real response?
I did give a real response.
In any case, here is another:
Do something you enjoy doing instead of seeking a hobby that has regional appeal and "everyone else is doing it around here, so by the Law of Averages, I am bound to meet some hoes while engaging in said activity."
Now, if you enjoy what they do, then rock on. I'm just saying. It seems kind of lame to do something just to meet women. Don't you want to have fun and be challenged, or is it all about getting women?
I've been thinking lately that one of the most depressing things is when you are single, and yet you are sitting around not doing anything in particular to make yourself more amenable to finding a good partner.
So lately I've tried to do at least one or two small things every day that would advance me in that category, while also start to plan for slightly bigger things every once in a awhile.
For example,
Small thing: Today I'm going to go for a run, because it's a healthy thing to do for your body and mind, and because it's better to actively engage in activities than to be a lazy slob who sits around and does nothing.
Small thing: When I spend the day in town, I'm going to dress decently nice and not just lazy in sweats, because being a sloppy dress will make you less attractive in general to females.
Large thing: I'm going to begin a workout regimen to get myself in better shape and make my body much more attractive and desirable.
Large thing: I'm going to learn and get good at a skill or interest, especially something a lot of other people in this area enjoy doing socially, in order to meet more people and set myself up for success.
Does that make sense? It not only is proactively bettering your odds for finding someone, but it also helps you feel better about yourself and your life because you are being proactive about it and not just sitting around bitter over what's not happening in your life.
So, list away!
I have a partner. I do those things anyway. For ME. Finding a partner is not like finding a job. You don't apply, then get accepted based on a set of qualifications as much of this board seems to think. Interpersonal relationships, at least good ones, don't work like that. You don't FIND a partner so much a allow people in. My list would look something like this
- Be a good person. Have a good moral code and live by it.
- Be a healthy person of mind and body.
- Be a fun and happy person.
- Be a good friend, family member with caring, fun, joy and love.
- See people for themselves, not for their potential to fill some gap in you by being a "partner".
someonenew points out a key to not just meeting someone but keeping someone. People who have long term relationships often do the same things they were doing when they met their significant other. They kept their appearance up and their weight down, they were active and hard working, they acted in a friendly and kind way to other people.
My hint of what you can do today. Quit eating so much and lose some weight. (You don't have to work out, just don't eat so much food. You'll lose weight and not have to sweat a drop.) Put on clean, well fitting clothes for going out, not workout attire.
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