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My question is: Can I expect to get dates with the same kind of women I'd meet in real life using online dating as a 21 year old male assuming I make my profile the best it can be? Or does using online dating require men to lower their expectations?
So far I haven't had any luck with the kind of women I'd normally be able to date. They just do not seem to be interested in me on POF.
I'll admit my profile isn't that great and I actually got some pointers to fix it. Before I give POF any more of my time I want to make sure its worth it based off other people's experience. No point throwing good after bad right?
Yes I am a college student. Before someone says its easy to find women in college, I'll say its easy to find easy women, and I'm not interested in them. I don't do well on the bar scene mostly because I don't like the women I meet that way. I've been using POF to supplement my dating pool because of this and how I just don't meet a lot of women I want to date in my day to day life.
Last edited by Skinnyfat; 01-03-2014 at 01:00 PM..
My experience has been the same as yours: generally speaking, if you met the exact same girl online or in person, it would be easier to get a date with her in person.
You're not required to lower your expectations by any means, but you'll have a much higher failure rate with women online than you will in person (short of some unusual circumstance, like an INCREDIBLY fluid writing style or a stutter or something).
It's not worth your time for the most part. If you like playing footsie with attention wh-ores and women well below your pay grade (whatever it is), by all means knock yourself out.
A lot of guys are under the mistaken assumption sites like POF are some untapped plethora. It's more like Ross Dress for Less. If you have all day to waste, you may find an outfit, if you're lucky. I tried it for 6 months and canned it.
Could just be me, but I do horribly on online dating (like almost no replies, no messages, and no dates). I'm pretty open about my preferences in women. Either the system sucks herds of goats or I've got the face of one.
The fact of the matter is that the women online are the same women you see in real life, so if they don't like you in real life, they aren't going to like you online.
If anything, it is harder to get them to like you online because they won't even respond if they don't like your picture, at least they will speak with you in real life to not be rude.
I've had better luck offline. Offline I have no problem attracting men who are at my level or above. Online the only guys who seemed to be interested for the most part were way below my level.
One of my friends recently posted on Facebook she took down her OKC profile after the last straw was having a 21 year old send her a message asking her to cuddle and pay his bills for him. She said if there's a market for her out there, it's not online. One of her friends responded she'd seen an interview about how the OLD algorithms are designed to give people good enough matches to give them hope they'll meet someone but not exact matches because if they successfully match too many members, they lose their customer base.
The fact of the matter is that the women online are the same women you see in real life, so if they don't like you in real life, they aren't going to like you online.
If anything, it is harder to get them to like you online because they won't even respond if they don't like your picture, at least they will speak with you in real life to not be rude.
I think you may have misunderstood my situation. I do alright in real life when I find someone who interests me. I've done poorly online. I'm not sure if its my profile or that's just the way it is.
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