Decision about relationships (marriage, single, children, college)
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If you were faced with a decision where you were completely ambivalent about staying in a relationship and that means getting married shortly or breaking up and you could not reach any consensus because when you weigh the positives with the negatives they sort of equal out and do not provide you with any clear direction - would you just flip a coin and take the plunge into marriage that way?
May be a totally absurd question in ordinary circumstances but if marriage is a 50/50 crapshoot anyway why not just use a coin toss?
If you were faced with a decision where you were completely ambivalent about staying in a relationship and that means getting married shortly or breaking up and you could not reach any consensus because when you weigh the positives with the negatives they sort of equal out and do not provide you with any clear direction - would you just flip a coin and take the plunge into marriage that way?
May be a totally absurd question in ordinary circumstances but if marriage is a 50/50 crapshoot anyway why not just use a coin toss?
I myself might go for the marriage simply because I prefer being married (and being in a non-abusive marriage) to remaining single.
Of course, this is only my point of view on this. You need to decide what is the best move for you in such a situation if you are currently or will ever be in such a situation.
In other words you are settling which is covered in a different but current thread and the answer is still no, I have never and will never settle just to be in a relationship or marriage. I would rather stay single and be by myself than be married or with someone and miserable.
I will always choose by myself and alone over married/in a relationship and still alone.
If you were faced with a decision where you were completely ambivalent about staying in a relationship and that means getting married shortly or breaking up and you could not reach any consensus because when you weigh the positives with the negatives they sort of equal out and do not provide you with any clear direction - would you just flip a coin and take the plunge into marriage that way?
May be a totally absurd question in ordinary circumstances but if marriage is a 50/50 crapshoot anyway why not just use a coin toss?
I can maybe see flipping a coin to decide whether to stay with your SO other not, but not marriage. Even under the best circumstances marriage is a challenge and you have to work on it all the time. I would never ever go into a marriage until I was at least 90-95% sure that I wanted to do this.
If you were faced with a decision where you were completely ambivalent about staying in a relationship and that means getting married shortly or breaking up and you could not reach any consensus because when you weigh the positives with the negatives they sort of equal out and do not provide you with any clear direction - would you just flip a coin and take the plunge into marriage that way?
If you feel ambivolent towards someone to the point where you could just as easily break up as get married, then even entertaining the notion of marriage is probably not what you want to do.
Flipping a coin is a rediculous way to settle it. Know yourself in this situation!
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May be a totally absurd question in ordinary circumstances but if marriage is a 50/50 crapshoot anyway why not just use a coin toss?
Marriage is not a 50/50 crapshoot. Boiling down marriage to one oversimplified statistic is not being fair to the situation. There is far more to it than getting married, and flipping a coin. The real rate is not as high as 50% (but may be in the 40%'s). However, deeper analytical analysis shows a lot of factors greatly reduce an individuals "chance" of divorce. Marrying after age 25 reduces one's chance of divorce about 25%, having a college education reduces the chance about 25%, having an income of 50K or more reduces the chance 30%, not having children until after the marriage is established reduces the chance 25%.....
Maybe you see where this is going. People who don't rush into marriage, but get their life in order and gain some wisdom on life before marriage tend to have far, far higher success rates than the off bantied "50%" mark flippantly tossed around.
If you were faced with a decision where you were completely ambivalent about staying in a relationship and that means getting married shortly or breaking up and you could not reach any consensus because when you weigh the positives with the negatives they sort of equal out and do not provide you with any clear direction - would you just flip a coin and take the plunge into marriage that way?
May be a totally absurd question in ordinary circumstances but if marriage is a 50/50 crapshoot anyway why not just use a coin toss?
If you have to ask complete strangers whether you should get married using a setup that is ridiculously biased toward neutrality, the answer is no, you shouldn't get married.
I don't think "meh" is a good reason to get married. What an absolutely bleak scenario.
My question is: How many people actually do this?
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