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yeah. i think its possible. you just need time to cut off all non-platonic feelings you might have them. its also easier if you're in a new relationship when you start talking to them again.
I posted my ex's profile on http://www.TalkingEx.com]TalkingEx.Com (broken link) and I feel much better, I did not want someone else to put up with all the cheating.
I know for a fact that you can stay friends with your ex, if it was an amicable break-up. My ex and I divorced 17 years ago but have remained friends ever since. Every year I would invite him for the holiday dinners so that our son could spend the holidays with both of us rather than having to chose one. Lucky for me I have an understanding husband who doesn't mind spending Christmas with my ex-husband. Actually, they get along great.
It depends on the relationship and who it is. I have one ex I don't have anything to do with. Lucky for me my kids dad and I are friends...but we have been broke up for a real long time.
I do not think you can have man from previous time because they always want to make love again. I do not prefer this type of thing and chose to stop communications with all of my lovers. These men only think sex all the time but I know women who do this and enjoy sex from old partner and maybe its okay for them.
I do not think you can have man from previous time because they always want to make love again. I do not prefer this type of thing and chose to stop communications with all of my lovers. These men only think sex all the time but I know women who do this and enjoy sex from old partner and maybe its okay for them.
Actually, I think that if you gave them a chance you would see that you can, indeed, be friends with past boyfriends. If they enjoyed your company and liked you as a person they will often be happy to maintain a platonic friendship with you. It is sometimes a bit awkward at first because you don;'t want to be too friendly lest they misread your intentions, but I have always found that after a few months you can have very pleasant conversations with exes without there being any misunderstandings or hurt feelings. I think the key is to never have a bad breakup. If there are no accusations or fights... simply a change of heart about the relationship... and it is an amicable split, then there should be no problems.
This subject had a lot to do with the failure of my last relationship. The woman would talk about all of her exes all of the time, and still hung out with a few of them, too. She knew I didn't like that stuff, as I am pretty conservative, and don't agree with pursuing a relationship while still connected to your exes (couples w/children excluded, again). I am a guy, and I know how guys think. Whenever I see one of my exes (some of them I have worked with so I had no choice) I always think of sex at some point during the encounter. I would prefer that my current girlfriend not remain connected to ex lovers for this reason alone. Of course, there's always a chance the woman could redevelop feelings for the ex at some point, and this too is dangerous. I do not believe it is healthy for ones current relationship, and that if you respect and cherish that relationship this is something you should really give up for your lover if you are serious about them. Respectfully disagreeing with all who share the opposite view.
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I am not interested in talking to any ex girls I know. Now, if they want to call, I will talk to them but I will never call any of them. I don't hate them and I did not rip up our photos or anything like that. I am just not all that interested in them anymore except for the first girl I ever really loved in high school. I would call her if she would give me the time of day (she won't) but I would not have any relationship with her even if both of us were not married (we are). But I would like to talk to her once in awhile because she is special to me.
You can be friends with an ex after two years or when you have found someone else and are in another committed relationship.
Trying to be friends right after a breakup is simply another way to stay in denial and delay the separation. It's also a way for a man to assure himself a continued source of sex -- heaven forbid that disappears! And for women, being friends after a breakup keeps her "bonded" to her ex. As long as she is still bonded, it's very difficult for her to open her heart and mind to someone else.
After a breakup, the best thing, for a woman especially, is just stop seeing the guy cold turkey. No phone calls or visits or anything like that. In the long run, it ends up being much less painful and speeds the healing process. Just tell him, "We can be friends once I marry someone else."
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