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Even if a guy is willing, it's not a good idea. Even the best of people WILL get tired of it and feel like they're being taken advantage of in that kind of situation. Resentment and frustration builds most anytime something is so one-sided.
Yep, I agree, that's why I would let them make that call but I would prefer that we meet somewhere in the middle or alternate.
Well, I think arguments about what is reasonable or unreasonable about what to expect from other people are largely useless. I think what you get from this thread is that some people would do that and some won't. YMMV.
Yes, it was more of a question of, when a guy asks you out, do you expect to be picked up and whether men are generally ok with picking up women who they ask out.
Even if a guy is willing, it's not a good idea. Even the best of people WILL get tired of it and feel like they're being taken advantage of in that kind of situation. Resentment and frustration builds most anytime something is so one-sided.
^^^This. Even if she paid for the gas, there sometimes isn't enough money to compensate the one having to make all the effort to do the driving, the time it takes, the frustrations in traffic jams, inclement weather, etc.
In the olden days I believe it was traditionally men picking up women for dates however, through the years that has drastically changed because of the lifestyle of those who date now.
Women are in the workforce, they have children without spouses, they are independent, they have activities, they go out by themselves with their girlfriends to bars, restaurants, clubs etc.
The dating traditions from long ago and not the dating traditions of today and one needs to keep up with or stay out of the dating game as it is currently played.
You're right, it was. You asked why you should work on your psychological issues. I gave a blunt and honest answer, perhaps without tact. However, the truth still remains.
In the olden days I believe it was traditionally men picking up women for dates however, through the years that has drastically changed because of the lifestyle of those who date now.
Women are in the workforce, they have children without spouses, they are independent, they have activities, they go out by themselves with their girlfriends to bars, restaurants, clubs etc.
Women being more independent is a factor, but I think online dating has changed the playing field, too. It's one thing for a man you have a rapport with and who is someone you've interacted with in person to offer to pick you up on a date, but it seems odd to expect a grand chivalrous gesture from someone who's basically a stranger you've been texting and you may have had coffee with once or twice.
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She/he/it is referring to anxiety issues that I have about sex but that isn't what this thread is about either.
And anxiety about driving, which is what the thread is partially about.
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