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Turning 27 soon. Usually like to disguise my age online for some reason. But thanks for pointing that out. And yes that situation was fixed, I left her and discontinued all contact with her. She actually contacted me saying she wanted to "rekindle the flame" a year later but I ignored her. But soon after that I got back with this woman again.
Interesting that you would lie about your age in the same sentence where you say there's "no reason to be dishonest about my age on a forum."
I also believe you are lying in your OP. For instance, you say you got back with her "late last year" which means within the past 2-3 months, but the timeline of your story does not fit.
It's very telling since I think dishonesty might be at the heart of your problem. It usually is. Most of the issues we see on here boil down to people lying to themselves or to others.
Ask yourself: What are you deceiving yourself about in this particular situation? What casual lies are you telling others, and for what reason?
she will never give you a 100% she cant if she did she would be a rotten mother.
on the other hand if she has zero time for you that is a giant red flag about what is up the road and why the last guy isnt there anymore. people running on empty are needy and cant give anybody jack.
Interesting that you would lie about your age in the same sentence where you say there's "no reason to be dishonest about my age on a forum."
I also believe you are lying in your OP. For instance, you say you got back with her "late last year" which means within the past 2-3 months, but the timeline of your story does not fit.
It's very telling since I think dishonesty might be at the heart of your problem. It usually is. Most of the issues we see on here boil down to people lying to themselves or to others.
Ask yourself: What are you deceiving yourself about in this particular situation? What casual lies are you telling others, and for what reason?
I didn't read your entire post....but any child-free guy (and you're still young!) getting involved with a woman with baggage, I mean children, is a huge mistake. Run Forrest, RUN!
I didn't read your entire post....but any child-free guy (and you're still young!) getting involved with a woman with baggage, I mean children, is a huge mistake. Run Forrest, RUN!
You should probably read the whole post before commenting. That goes for every post, actually.
It's really a long story but I know you guys don't like to read long stories lol so I'll keep it as short as possible. I'm really in a bad situation I have been with this woman on and off for about 9 years (we didn't talk for a couple years in between and she had kids with her husband now ex husband) and I recently got back with her late last year. I moved in with her because I came from 3000 miles always basically have gave up my life for her (third time I've done that) we are both 27. Anyway she has always had a bad attitude and one min loves me and the next min doesn't. I treat her kids like they were my own love them a lot. She rarely spends any time with me only work and kids and we sleep and that's it. A couple months ago she kicked me out because she was afraid of getting in trouble with me being at her house (she is a foster parent) so at 3am she starts a fight with me and takes me to her mothers to stay. Her foster kids dad slept on the coach at her house that night she dropped me off. Since then I have been living here she never comes to see me.
She comes to her mothers every week but most of the time she doesn't speak to me or she just says hi. And then she wants me to come and sit with everyone in the living room and doesn't give me any one on one time with her unless she wants it which is rare. I asked her why she will go and hang out with her family and not me and she says "because they don't want anything from me or my attention" She says she wants to get married but for now her kids and job come first. And she has also cheated on me years ago. But then when I want to leave her she says she wants to work on us and then the next day it's like she forgot we even spoke. I tell her the things that bother me and she feels I'm complaining about her and doesn't want to hear it or she will agree and say your right I was wrong but nothing changes. It's all about her and her kids and even her foster kids who are leaving in a month but she has a long list of people and things she cares about and it seems I'm at the the bottom even though she says otherwise. Then she tells me she will never put a man over her kids.
She grew up not caring about men but says she loves me and wants to spend her life with me "in the end". But when I try to break up with her she says she wants us and she wants to work on us for the sake of her kids. She also says she feels emotionally unstable. So it seems like the convenient thing for her because chances are she won't find anyone else with 3 kids and her attitude. I honestly feel she only wants me because of the relationship that I have with her kids and how I'm faithful to her and don't complain much even though she has put me thru hell on multiple occasions. So when the kids father comes back to town I have do deal with his drama he wasn't here when I first moved back.
This will be my 3rd time moving back here for her and with her and all 3 times she has kicked me out. But always wants me back at some point and when I told her no she moved to NYC and tried to get me back. Still said no but truth is I loved her a lot and eventually I gave her another chance but truth is the entire time I've known her she hasn't changed. Even before she had kids she was selfish and did what was best for her. But she hates the thought of me being with someone else. I honestly don't know how I even fell in love with her my family hates her but her family loves me. I have even give her money but when I ask her for money it's an issue. What should I do?
We have established that the story is full of falsehoods, so who knows what "this" is. Not love, certainly.
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