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I can think of any word to imagine how this guy in the story must now be feeling. The woman had an abortion behind his back. She acted as if nothing happened and informs him about it 3 days later what she did.
This must really suck. If the man does wants the baby (I think it's because very little is mentioned about male attachment towards the baby), the woman is fully aware of this but still aborts the baby behind his back and comes home telling him the baby is dead because she had an abortion.
It would be easy to say yes, I would not forgive her. BUT, because I'm not them personally and I have no idea what happens behind closed doors with them I can't really say.
Well . . . as a female, I can tell you that his previous reaction to a pregnancy scare may have been the motivation.
If two people are "supposedly" in a committed relationship and there is a scare, but his reaction is to get ANGRY, then the woman's alternatives are limited to abortion or moving away and having the baby alone without telling him she's PG.
Getting angry is selfish and implies the male had zero to do with the situation.
Things like that don't happen out of the blue in long-term relationships. If a couple was only dating a few months, it would be a no-brainer, as there is really no commitment there. But one woman was in a four-year relationship and the other was in a marriage. If their relationships were healthy, they would have felt they could talk to their men about an unwanted pregnancy. Something else is going on with both of those couples. I'd bet the rent on it.
For the one who was engaged, I wonder if she didn't want to marry the guy. For the one who was married, maybe she feared coercion, derision, or some kind of punishment for not wanting a child. We don't have their side of it, so any answers anyone provides here are just going to be knee-jerk and based on the assumption that these women are duplicitous. For all anyone here knows, maybe the men are abusers, criminals, or other unsavory types. Maybe the relationships were already unraveling and these women didn't want any permanent ties to the men. Women in long-term relationships and marriages don't just wake up one day and say, "Dang, pregnant, gotta go get that taken care of," like it's a squealing fan belt.
Hell no. The abortion ain't my issue. Going behind my back is much more damning. Especially on serious business as a pregnancy.
I agree, why did she feel the need to go behind his back?
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Think I will just grab my popcorn on this one!
