"The person who cares the least controls the relationship"

[Larkspur123]

Originally Posted by usamathman

People with options don't have to go around announcing it. When you are with someone that you deem as "different from the others" you know they could easily move on if they wanted. You know that this person DOES NOT HAVE to be with you but CHOOSES TO BE with you. Knowing that the person CHOOSES to be with you........when they COULD BE with a plethora of others makes you appreciate and value them more.

I know in my experience with women this has always been the case. Same can be said for many of the men I know.

Getting out of line is similiar to the non-negotiables a person has. The things that a person will absolutely not accept in a relationship. Could be access drama, disrespect, cheating, lying. etc. When a person gets out of line they generally do something that is not congruent with the expectations you have set.

Going along with your first thought, both parties usually have options unless they are mismatched, don't they?

I guess I am confused, with not specifically you, but the continued talk of options in threads similar to these.

I guess ultimately I would assume when i was dating, that ultimately everyone has options...which includes not being in a relationship at all.

Again not specifically you, but there is a poster who continually talks about the "options" stuff..once someone makes a how of announcing they have options, then many emotionally healthy people will question if that relationship is for them.

[J.P.]

Originally Posted by Larkspur123

Going along with your first thought, both parties usually have options unless they are mismatched, don't they?

I guess I am confused, with not specifically you, but the continued talk of options in threads similar to these.

I guess ultimately I would assume when i was dating, that ultimately everyone has options...which includes not being in a relationship at all.

Again not specifically you, but there is a poster who continually talks about the "options" stuff..once someone makes a how of announcing they have options, then many emotionally healthy people will question if that relationship is for them.

No, not everyone has options. Some have options, but choose not to exercise them. People with options don't brag about it to their dates. If someone has options, you'll be able to tell through their actions and mannerisms.

[Larkspur123]

Originally Posted by J.P.

No, not everyone has options. Some have options, but choose not to exercise them. People with options don't brag about it to their dates. If someone has options, you'll be able to tell through their actions and mannerisms.

I guess I would figure that with two people of similar attractiveness their options would be about the same if they were dating.

What actions and mannerisms?